What happened to me?

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by coldshower

when I can put it in, it suddenly went soft.

Hahaha! I think your kuku tired of her pussy.
Take a few rest.Once your kuku horny then you look for her pussy.

[peeboy75]

Originally Posted by coldshower

Thank you all for the input. I will probably start to resume my exercise first.

Adding more context:

When we are in foreplay, my penis is still standing. But when I am done with licking her or when I can put it in, it suddenly went soft.
Am I afraid of something that I am unaware of?

I have that experience too, could be because i was concentrating on licking her and not really concentrating on the whole sensuality of the session. My dick will lose some hardness after a while but no biggie, i just have to rub my semi hard dick on her vagina to get hard again before going in. Trouble is if you start to get anxious and keep asking yourself in your mind "oh shit...am i going to get hard...am i going to get hard",you are never going to. Relax and treat it as a no issue and part of process of sex actually.
Alternatively, why dont you 69? That way, both of you can maintain stimulation and then when you are ready just have her reverse cowgirl you..

[kurtis]

you know what. it will get worse.

Everytime you are going to do with her, that fear of turning flaccid will haunt you everytime.

you need to overcome it. try not to do it after work and do it only when you are in an optimum environment to regain back that confidence first.

[gaiusque]

Pretty sure that it’s just work and stress. Late 20s, got masturbate, and not brainwashed by porn... all sounds within typical norms.

2020 has been a rough year for many of us, esp during the CB period.

I agree with the idea that you need to rest more, and probably try and arrange a staycation. Or maybe even one of those couple massage/spa sessions... can help with creating the right environment and relaxes all (to get into the mood).

Originally Posted by coldshower

Hi guys,

I have no idea what happened to my body.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to 2 years and we always have regular sex. But nowadays, I am having difficulty getting my dick to stand.

It happened twice, after a long day of work, I went to visit her. We tried to do it, I was hard before. While I lick her until she cum, I turned flaccid.

After which, it couldn't stand anymore. Whats wrong with me? Is this ED?

Or what is going on ?

[PandaFluff]

Originally Posted by coldshower

Hi guys,

I have no idea what happened to my body.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to 2 years and we always have regular sex. But nowadays, I am having difficulty getting my dick to stand.

It happened twice, after a long day of work, I went to visit her. We tried to do it, I was hard before. While I lick her until she cum, I turned flaccid.

After which, it couldn't stand anymore. Whats wrong with me? Is this ED?

Or what is going on ?

It be many factors like other bros have mentioned. You did not state your age so it is difficult to assume what might be wrong.

Many men over the age of 35 years old have low testosterone which place a huge part in how you perform and how your little brother acts. Taking stuff like viagra or cialis is just a temporary fix.

[yowtf]

Probably work stress related.

Happened to me too if i have backlogs/problems waiting to be solved at work.

But once that period is over, performance will revert to "normal".

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by coldshower

Thank you all for the input. I will probably start to resume my exercise first.

Adding more context:

When we are in foreplay, my penis is still standing. But when I am done with licking her or when I can put it in, it suddenly went soft.
Am I afraid of something that I am unaware of?

Too much porn will have that same effect. Your brain is used to that level of stimulation. Try abstaining from porn for a month and see if there is improvement.

Also work stress builds up over time. So last time maybe the effect not obvious, now it build up to affect your erection.

Anyway, if this persist, go see a doctor. You are only in your 20s. this should not happen. Good luck!!

[dcfv]

As someone that could last for hours with the right girl, this can happen to me too. The reason is surprisingly it could make you soft because your focus is on her. The solution is possibly 69. So while licking her could excite you and make you hard, this stimulation may not last. The added reason is familiarity. You are bored with her.

Your girl too has too help you when she notice you may be softening. So depends what stimulates you, you have to break off and change position and do something that stimulates you. Put your cock inside her., fondle her breast..or whatever, change position and fuck her hard...

Or just simply relax and let it go soft. Just cuddle her, kiss her and relax. If you do not feel distressed, she will not. And it will come back hard again as you restart your foreplay.

if you are not fit, or tired, you will lose it as your cock needs the blood flow.

[crood]

Originally Posted by coldshower

Thank you all for the input. I will probably start to resume my exercise first.

Adding more context:

When we are in foreplay, my penis is still standing. But when I am done with licking her or when I can put it in, it suddenly went soft.
Am I afraid of something that I am unaware of?

Aging bah ... pretty common.

[PandaFluff]

Another possibility is that you are just not aroused enough. I tend to see this in my self. For me arousal play a huge part on how my DIDI function.

[randyrockhard]

There is a breathing technique that you can try while you are hard. Basically, stick your tongue to the top of your inner mouth while breathing normally. This would build energy inside of you, like in Qi Gong.

And visualize the blood flow circulating this energy to your dick, like a circle.

Try this

[mnymine]

Maybe its the age bro...

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by coldshower

Hi guys,

I have no idea what happened to my body.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to 2 years and we always have regular sex. But nowadays, I am having difficulty getting my dick to stand.

It happened twice, after a long day of work, I went to visit her. We tried to do it, I was hard before. While I lick her until she cum, I turned flaccid.

After which, it couldn't stand anymore. Whats wrong with me? Is this ED?

Or what is going on ?

go gym and do back press..

i am not kidding, TS. somehow this exercise always boost my testosterones.

[jackson59]

Bro I had the exact same problem some time back with my fwb too.
Can stay hard all the way, even when we only kissing with clothes all on. When foreplay also rock hard. Then when wanna put condom, become soft. Best part is? I was only 24 then! (I am 25 now).

So let me share you what I personally felt happened and what I did to resolve this issue:
1) Stress. It might be work related or not, doesn't matter. The sad truth is, the thought of you going soft might come back to you every time you want to put on condom. You will start to have thoughts of "please don't go soft" and it will actually make things worse. So relax, always always remember: sex is supposed to be relaxing and enjoyable. Not a chore.

2) Porn. When you watch porn, you are exposed to a lot of expectations and sometimes your imaginations even lose out to the scenes in porn. Let alone reality now. You legit need to cut down on pornography and masturbation. Even if you want to masturbate, try to do it without watching porn. Might be funny, but look at photos/videos of your gf while you masturbate. I confirm you when the real sex comes, you will be shocked to see how "eager" you are to piak her.

Also, drink plenty of water. And maybe do a bit of push ups before meeting her. When you feel good, you will do good. Cheers!

[AaronLeeKwok]

Originally Posted by coldshower

Hi guys,

I have no idea what happened to my body.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to 2 years and we always have regular sex. But nowadays, I am having difficulty getting my dick to stand.

It happened twice, after a long day of work, I went to visit her. We tried to do it, I was hard before. While I lick her until she cum, I turned flaccid.

After which, it couldn't stand anymore. Whats wrong with me? Is this ED?

Or what is going on ?

TS, stress might be responsible for your problem.