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since values are so different I think a divorce is a better option.
Hard to trust that she will not ditch me when I am sick.
That is true, no point hanging (to her) if she doesn't even bother.
You are very right about the part on ditching you if you became sick or lost your job.
There are quite of posts here that tell you to get along for the sake of your kids and all but anyone consider the fact that if you are no long capable to provide her with the life she is having now?
Then she leave you and you come here to complain, what will all those (who told you to hang on the marriage) going to do? Type some posts to condemn the wife lor, what else?
The best is get a good lawyer who can help you to get through the divorce and get a fair & reasonable deal so you don't have to struggle too much with your post divorce life.
And remember don't let your wife knows you are planning to divorce her, consult the lawyer and do your ground work first.
My lawyer was not bad, PM me if you are interested.
That is true, no point hanging (to her) if she doesn't even bother.
You are very right about the part on ditching you if you became sick or lost your job.
There are quite of posts here that tell you to get along for the sake of your kids and all but anyone consider the fact that if you are no long capable to provide her with the life she is having now?
Then she leave you and you come here to complain, what will all those (who told you to hang on the marriage) going to do? Type some posts to condemn the wife lor, what else?
The best is get a good lawyer who can help you to get through the divorce and get a fair & reasonable deal so you don't have to struggle too much with your post divorce life.
And remember don't let your wife knows you are planning to divorce her, consult the lawyer and do your ground work first.
My lawyer was not bad, PM me if you are interested.
You are absolutely right. I know for a fact that her family wants to ruin me. They have always suggested to her ways to get back at me when I have done absolutely no harm to her family. Ridiculous and fucked up people.
You are absolutely right. I know for a fact that her family wants to ruin me. They have always suggested to her ways to get back at me when I have done absolutely no harm to her family. Ridiculous and fucked up people.
Please! Her family will always back her up no matter what, that's family. The most important now is to pretend to do nothing and start doing a lot. Start to see your lawyer, move your assets if you have to.
It is better to move your assets somewhere and then let her sue for it, at the end it will a compromise. If you don't move it, you have to sue for it and compromise at the end.
Once you decide to fight, fight hard, fight dirty if you have to. The divorce will be the end of your relationship as spouses but the start of a new relationship as co-parents of your kids. Meaning whatever you managed to keep, you can use it as goodwill or bargaining chip later on (YES, even after the divorce process ended). Think about it.
Please! Her family will always back her up no matter what, that's family. The most important now is to pretend to do nothing and start doing a lot. Start to see your lawyer, move your assets if you have to.
It is better to move your assets somewhere and then let her sue for it, at the end it will a compromise. If you don't move it, you have to sue for it and compromise at the end.
Once you decide to fight, fight hard, fight dirty if you have to. The divorce will be the end of your relationship as spouses but the start of a new relationship as co-parents of your kids. Meaning whatever you managed to keep, you can use it as goodwill or bargaining chip later on (YES, even after the divorce process ended). Think about it.
It’s during breakups that many people show their true colors. Never expect a clean fight. If poorly prepared, as a man Im sorry to say that most likely we are the ones to pay for it financially whether or not you are at fault.
The forties is a hurdle for many couples, this is another time when Nature fucks with us. Our libido dips compared to women who experience their greatest horniness. If not prepared well to handle it , some marriages may experience a rapid deterioration. Needs have to be met whether we like it or not, if not it’ll not be labelled a need.
If the marriage is not well lubricated with kindness & romance from both parties its easy for the attrition to wreak havoc. Successful marriages take a lot of work, if one partner is unwillingly its tough for the other to carry the relationship alone.
It’s during breakups that many people show their true colors. Never expect a clean fight. If poorly prepared, as a man Im sorry to say that most likely we are the ones to pay for it financially whether or not you are at fault.
The forties is a hurdle for many couples, this is another time when Nature fucks with us. Our libido dips compared to women who experience their greatest horniness. If not prepared well to handle it , some marriages may experience a rapid deterioration. Needs have to be met whether we like it or not, if not it’ll not be labelled a need.
If the marriage is not well lubricated with kindness & romance from both parties its easy for the attrition to wreak havoc. Successful marriages take a lot of work, if one partner is unwillingly its tough for the other to carry the relationship alone.
I would say that nowadays it is not the case of man having to pay for financially, don't proceed (to divorce) with this thinking. The present family norm is dual income. When women charter was written, it was mainly single income (the man).
The bottom line is neither party is to profit from the divorce (something which my lawyer used to fight during mine), however if you choose to let go of it then it's your decision.