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if your partner is working as well, there is no need to give allowance, i believe this is the norm for my age(In my early 30s). At most there is a joint bank account, which is used for household expenses and etc. Even the housing is split CPF payment.
May I ask how old are you guys? I just thought giving allowance to your wife when they are also working is ridiculous, esp if the wife is demanding for it. This is 20th century man. Gender equality.
Yes.. there are wives out there who are ridiculous. Haiz.. perhaps is their upbringing.
Give allowance to a woman if she gives you regular blowjobs, ass rimming, massages & lets you cum on her face & fuck her ass. Because damn thats really plus plus.
Also you can give her an allowance if she studying for self improvement or is sacrificing her career to raise your kid as a stay home Mum.
If you need to socialize and having a gorgeous wife helps your career, give her the allowance to look good.
Other than that if your wife tells you they are the weaker gender, show her pictures of Rhonda Rousey , Gina Carano & tell her women hold up half the sky ;give birth to all of humanity. How can women be weak?
[QUOTE=EtherC;20341736]Give allowance to a woman if she gives you regular blowjobs, ass rimming, massages & lets you cum on her face & fuck her ass. Because damn thats really plus plus.
Dont tell that to mine! She does all that but we both contribute equally to the house and she spends her own money on her personal things. I do pay for holidays and travel though cause I do actually have far more money than she does!
I got joint account with wife... i put in more than my wife... i still pay bills... and wife ever hinted me to give her allowance. I really dry up liao.. no savings...yet see her black face when I refuse to give.
Bro ahgore, I believe what everyone is trying to tell you is there is no norm...it depends on your arrangement with your wife...just curious how long have you known your wife and how long have you been married?
I think maybe the best way is to talk to your wife? I had that conversation with my wife before marriage. She expects 家用, which I went into details to explain that mean (money for) our household uses; it is not for her personal expenses...of course sometimes she got dipped a bit into the kitty but sigh what to do? keep quiet lor, after all she feels guilty and will try to put it back the following month...like I said my wife is a bit of a spendthrift so I need to maintain the balance
Unless she is not working and prefer to be a housewife then ok I will maintain her as well by giving her a separate sum to the best of my ability.
Well my wife understands I am not earning to the point that we can continue with our lifestyle with a single income...so she continues to work.
Like I said earlier I maintain a separate bank account to keep allowance for wife, but the thing she don't know about that account...so whatever cash, stuffs that I buy for her comes from that account....but then again sometimes no choice have to dip a bit into my personal account to make up the difference.
As I have said maybe you need to have that conversation with your wife no matter how uncomfortable it is.
if your partner is working as well, there is no need to give allowance, i believe this is the norm for my age(In my early 30s). At most there is a joint bank account, which is used for household expenses and etc. Even the housing is split CPF payment.
May I ask how old are you guys? I just thought giving allowance to your wife when they are also working is ridiculous, esp if the wife is demanding for it. This is 20th century man. Gender equality.
You lucky lucky fella! Sounds like she’s a keeper! Yea reciprocation works too!
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Dont tell that to mine! She does all that but we both contribute equally to the house and she spends her own money on her personal things. I do pay for holidays and travel though cause I do actually have far more money than she does!
Bro ahgore, I believe what everyone is trying to tell you is there is no norm...it depends on your arrangement with your wife...just curious how long have you known your wife and how long have you been married?
I think maybe the best way is to talk to your wife? I had that conversation with my wife before marriage. She expects 家用, which I went into details to explain that mean (money for) our household uses; it is not for her personal expenses...of course sometimes she got dipped a bit into the kitty but sigh what to do? keep quiet lor, after all she feels guilty and will try to put it back the following month...like I said my wife is a bit of a spendthrift so I need to maintain the balance
Unless she is not working and prefer to be a housewife then ok I will maintain her as well by giving her a separate sum to the best of my ability.
Well my wife understands I am not earning to the point that we can continue with our lifestyle with a single income...so she continues to work.
Like I said earlier I maintain a separate bank account to keep allowance for wife, but the thing she don't know about that account...so whatever cash, stuffs that I buy for her comes from that account....but then again sometimes no choice have to dip a bit into my personal account to make up the difference.
As I have said maybe you need to have that conversation with your wife no matter how uncomfortable it is.
We had discussion before... and it went heated up.
I explained that I am carrying the bills (Internet, utilities, conservancy, etc) and also part of expenses for kids (she also contributes to this part). Until I got no savings at all...But then went to heated argument. End up i concluded that she wants the 家用 for personal use. Because I'll still be paying the bills even i give her allowance. Because of this.. plus other finance related matters....the relationship somehow turned a bit sour.
Not sure is it because her peers hubby gives allowance and she doesn't have it... that's why sore over this.
We had discussion before... and it went heated up.
I explained that I am carrying the bills (Internet, utilities, conservancy, etc) and also part of expenses for kids (she also contributes to this part). Until I got no savings at all...But then went to heated argument. End up i concluded that she wants the 家用 for personal use. Because I'll still be paying the bills even i give her allowance. Because of this.. plus other finance related matters....the relationship somehow turned a bit sour.
Not sure is it because her peers hubby gives allowance and she doesn't have it... that's why sore over this.
Actually I am curious to know what reason she gave (to you) for wanting 家用?
From your post I assumed that both of you never talk about the bills before marriage? Sorry but kaypoh a bit.
Joint account for kids expenditures...and also.. for home improvements. Example.. aircon services, plumbing, etc.
I kinda guess that she wants 家用is because her peers gets it whereas she don't. Maybe she feels unfair or envy why others gets it.
She knows how much I make.. but maybe she wanna deprive me from spending money outside...like whoremongering..
I feel bad for you man. Like that really cannot save up for emergency funds or do investment and or even treat yourself. Really living paycheck to paycheck. I strongly feel it should be equal contribution from both parties (in percentages), of course must discuss with the partner to see what agreeable and reasonable.