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Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
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Originally Posted by LooksLikeJesus
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think HR inform the supervisor (male)
he then tell all workers incldg dishwasher
they all give me that "even dog see u down" look after this
wat to do? the supervisor think he v upright, clean and religious, always say "o mi tor fo & gan-en"
This is quite the normal attitude in SG culture. In Australia, if I remembered correctly in state of Victoria. People with assault charge can serve in police force, LoL!
If you ever considered my advice and took up any of the license. Life will be much easier for you. In fact, now is the best time to take up the license. Coz most foreigners are stuck in their own countries. Think about it. Depending on your record, minor offences can take up a position in SCDF as well. But that is up top their own discretion and you die die must declare.
Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
In this modern society people are very pragmatic especially so here in SGP.
I learnt from a very young age while in primary school there are no real friends in life..... only people who become your "friend" for the benefits and connections by being associated with you. It was drilled into me by my grandpa & family elders never ever to trust anybody.... only trust myself.
Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
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Originally Posted by Beretta
In this modern society people are very pragmatic especially so here in SGP.
I learnt from a very young age while in primary school there are no real friends in life..... only people who become your "friend" for the benefits and connections by being associated with you. It was drilled into me by my grandpa & family elders never ever to trust anybody.... only trust myself.
My theory is that secondary school is probably the last chance to make real friends. there is still a bit of goodness in all of us.
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Originally Posted by Greenfrog
My theory is that secondary school is probably the last chance to make real friends. there is still a bit of goodness in all of us.
army ? nah. there are no friends in army.
secondary school ->I severed ties with them
national service -> I severed ties with them
There were too many red flags. Everything, fb, email, phone, U name it. This was after the big crisis I had. I learned to read people much better after that. The above mentioned 2 grps, some of them I already outgrew them, some were disappointments, some were out to associate with me for benefits.
Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
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Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan
one thing must learn is relatives or friends add in lending or borrowing money don't go well together..
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Originally Posted by LooksLikeJesus
This is the general behaviour of most Singaporeans. That's why I am distancing myself from most and people of our ancestry.
The past does not account for the present. Just start over and move on without them, m8.
This is generally true. Only loan if you are comfortable with the idea. But never loan more than you can afford, if you entertain that idea.
only loan money that u can afford to lose. and to sidetrack slightly: never be a guarantor, u don't know when u might be screwed over
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Originally Posted by cocky1234
I have people that i treat as friends, that abandoned me, even worse still add insult to me by saying negative things just to make me looks inferior in comparison to them.
Learn a hard lesson, never trust people 100 percent.
some people like to talk shit so that they feel more superior, to your face somemore
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Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
No such thing as best friends.
Its always about how much useful you are to them being with you.
Be very rich.
Depend on yourself.
End of the day, Every body and Every one leaves you.
The only person sticking around is yourself.
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Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
Friends? Mine are all Bros....
Everyone will approach me and call me "bro" when I had money to burn......
But all of them avoid or pretend dunno me when I am down and out.....
So now my only true friend or buddy is Yusoff Ishak..... which I keep tightly in my wallet and bank accounts.
Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
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Originally Posted by Beretta
In this modern society people are very pragmatic especially so here in SGP.
I learnt from a very young age while in primary school there are no real friends in life..... only people who become your "friend" for the benefits and connections by being associated with you. It was drilled into me by my grandpa & family elders never ever to trust anybody.... only trust myself.
Lucky for you to have such good advice from young.
Mine was the exact opposite.... from young it was drilled into me to uphold the meaning of "Brotherhood"... one for all and all for one.... from my lion dance troupe, kungfu martial art koon, NS days and workplace... everyone spouted brotherhood and even prayed to Kwan Ti.
Yes.... everyone was a "brother" in those times of abundance and easy money.... but when times are bad.... where are those so-called "brothers"?
It become as every man for himself.... you die is you own business.
"Brotherhood" and friends are non existent in this society..... the only friend you can count on nowadays is Yusoff Ishak.....
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Originally Posted by charlestan666
There is a difference between an Associate and Friend.
Many people likes to address one another "brother" just to make the relationship sounds not so formal. Dunn expect them to treat you as brother just because they called you "bro"......
There's one member who address me "bro, bro". Borrowed $$ from me but got return la. After that he stab me at the back. Just for info, most bros here call him "the pilot" lol
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Originally Posted by funboi
Sometime have a lot money... also no true friends because when you 风光 time, have something they see n like? they chat you up. Few reasons actually... either they wana learn from you or they wana suck from you etc.
People living a good life and have style usually have that "+ve aura" which also attract others. So if someone living a bad life hard life and have very jialat style..... they see that as "-ve aura" and stay away from it.
when someone is at bottom of their life drowning away.... you gave them the only lifeline and raise them up..... very soon they also forget about it.
Actually teaching them the ropes for me is ok. Extracting $ is not.
There were too many red flags. Everything, fb, email, phone, U name it. This was after the big crisis I had. I learned to read people much better after that. The above mentioned 2 grps, some of them I already outgrew them, some were disappointments, some were out to associate with me for benefits.
Can i ask are u doing a very useful full-time job or just working to pass time?
I dun think it is really good to read ppl much better. Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how?
There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression.
If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone. But if u dun have, then i dun think i can agree with what u say.
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Originally Posted by Pictionary
Can i ask are u doing a very useful full-time job or just working to pass time?
I dun think it is really good to read ppl much better. Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how?
There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression.
If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone. But if u dun have, then i dun think i can agree with what u say.
My previous statements only concerned about my personal life, my professional life have nothing to do with this. I can smile in the face of people that I don't like , drop them some small favours and feel nothing. I'II entertain you since I have time.
It is always better to have a skill @ reading people than none. This is to guard against them, if possible strike pre-emptively.
Good question: "Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how? " -> What happens if they don't like you to the core despite all your sucking up, how are you gonna cope with it?
Also, high power individuals tend to stick with their own, it's called water seeking its own level. Same goes for the type of woman you have for a wife. Speaking of which, you must be married with least 1 child to feed?
Even low level employees have feuds (albeit petty, and I don't give a shit about these stuff and people).
Good statement but not entirely correct: "If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone." -> Unless you're in a position that able to get close to the board of directors, have insider trading info or in a high civil servant position (Hats off to you and congrats, if you are one). It is a matter of time that anyone can replace YOU.
"There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression." -> Is maybe true, but I hope you're aware that in certain fields, there're tons of psychopathic tendencies people around. Beautiful women included.
I personally witness and worked for one before, it's so fake that I can tell. It's been years so I am able to mimic some of their behavioural traits. And yes, I am a sociopath with antisocial traits. May luck be with you and not end up a sacrificial lamb
My previous statements only concerned about my personal life, my professional life have nothing to do with this. I can smile in the face of people that I don't like , drop them some small favours and feel nothing. I'II entertain you since I have time.
It is always better to have a skill @ reading people than none. This is to guard against them, if possible strike pre-emptively.
Good question: "Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how? " -> What happens if they don't like you to the core despite all your sucking up, how are you gonna cope with it?
Also, high power individuals tend to stick with their own, it's called water seeking its own level. Same goes for the type of woman you have for a wife. Speaking of which, you must be married with least 1 child to feed?
Even low level employees have feuds (albeit petty, and I don't give a shit about these stuff and people).
Good statement but not entirely correct: "If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone." -> Unless you're in a position that able to get close to the board of directors, have insider trading info or in a high civil servant position (Hats off to you and congrats, if you are one). It is a matter of time that anyone can replace YOU.
"There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression." -> Is maybe true, but I hope you're aware that in certain fields, there're tons of psychopathic tendencies people around. Beautiful women included.
I personally witness and worked for one before, it's so fake that I can tell. It's been years so I am able to mimic some of their behavioural traits. And yes, I am a sociopath with antisocial traits. May luck be with you and not end up a sacrificial lamb
I understand what u mean, however it goes nowhere.
What can u advise for someone without any adequate knowledge and skills, and working in a company with selfish, toxic and high power individuals? I dun expect any good answers from u, just answer to the best of your knowledge, truthfully and practically.
Re: Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship?
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Originally Posted by Pictionary
I understand what u mean, however it goes nowhere.
What can u advise for someone without any adequate knowledge and skills, and working in a company with selfish, toxic and high power individuals? I dun expect any good answers from u, just answer to the best of your knowledge, truthfully and practically.
I don't expect good answers from you either. You're just another chip off the block like any Sinkie. Those are psychological findings. Where else you just based entirely off your own personal opinions.
As ludicrous as your opinions are, I'II respect them as ludicrous as they are. And no, you don't understand what I meant, in the slightest sense.