Wah....we singapoor men are like "hot cakes"? Hope they not just to scam us....into a quickie marriage then go to stand at Geylang or Joo Chiat. Then that would be worst than hell...end-up "wearing a green hat" husband
For guys who married foreign wives, how to survive if the guy is the only one contributing?
ROM, banquet minimum 1k++ per table, wedding expenses, si dian jing+dowry, just a decent proposal ring cost 3-4k++, wedding album 6k++
flats with fairly good location cost 500-600k each with monthly housing loans of 2k , loan period of 30years ..
House, renovation(minimum 50k), car (downpayment minimum 80-100k) and kids??? Childcare cost around 1k if wife is not working, milk powder 50++ a tin, pampers 30++ a pack? Tuition/enrichment classes at least few hundreds per montjs ..
Exclude own n wife/parents' daily expenditures /food/transport/bills ... Exclude holidays, medical, shopping cost ...
How to survive if the hb is the only sole breadwinner
ROM, banquet minimum 1k++ per table, wedding expenses, si dian jing+dowry, just a decent proposal ring cost 3-4k++, wedding album 6k++
Banquet don't need to be in 5 star hotel, unless you want FACE
Wedding album can go JB
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Originally Posted by sane
flats with fairly good location cost 500-600k each with monthly housing loans of 2k , loan period of 30years ..
I assume you talking of 4 rooms....Go for BTO then will be 350-400k, or go for 3 rooms lor
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Originally Posted by sane
House, renovation(minimum 50k), car (downpayment minimum 80-100k) and kids??? Childcare cost around 1k if wife is not working, milk powder 50++ a tin, pampers 30++ a pack? Tuition/enrichment classes at least few hundreds per montjs ..
Reno no need 50k, I just did my parent's 4 room hdb-major reno 30+k including furniture & app abt 40k. If BTO, 20k is enough. Now is not a good time to buy car, take cab or public transport. If require rent car lor
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Originally Posted by sane
Exclude own n wife/parents' daily expenditures /food/transport/bills ... Exclude holidays, medical, shopping cost ...
How to survive if the hb is the only sole breadwinner
Unless you and your future wife are big spenders and don't think about saving then even both are working, staying in SG no matter how much you earn also no enough.... spend within your limit, most Singaporean want FACE and overspend
For guys who married foreign wives, how to survive if the guy is the only one contributing?
ROM, banquet minimum 1k++ per table, wedding expenses, si dian jing+dowry, just a decent proposal ring cost 3-4k++, wedding album 6k++
flats with fairly good location cost 500-600k each with monthly housing loans of 2k , loan period of 30years ..
House, renovation(minimum 50k), car (downpayment minimum 80-100k) and kids??? Childcare cost around 1k if wife is not working, milk powder 50++ a tin, pampers 30++ a pack? Tuition/enrichment classes at least few hundreds per montjs ..
Exclude own n wife/parents' daily expenditures /food/transport/bills ... Exclude holidays, medical, shopping cost ...
How to survive if the hb is the only sole breadwinner
what this bro said is 100% true. i married a foreign wife. she's good. and understands. but there's some things that are un-avoidable.
they come thinking this way:
- have a better life from last time
- able to get more luxuries than last time, especially if they have friends who are always fighting who has the more expensive bags, bigger house
- there's always a hidden cost which are unforeseen
when u marry foreign wifes think clearly, don't get both parties into a sad situation. make sure u love her and in mentally prepare for much heavier responsibilities than being with a local wife.
Banquet don't need to be in 5 star hotel, unless you want FACE
Wedding album can go JB
I assume you talking of 4 rooms....Go for BTO then will be 350-400k, or go for 3 rooms lor
Reno no need 50k, I just did my parent's 4 room hdb-major reno 30+k including furniture & app abt 40k. If BTO, 20k is enough. Now is not a good time to buy car, take cab or public transport. If require rent car lor
Unless you and your future wife are big spenders and don't think about saving then even both are working, staying in SG no matter how much you earn also no enough.... spend within your limit, most Singaporean want FACE and overspend
Ermm.. I m not here to discuss about where to source for cheaper alternatives, better deals on reno/wedding packages.
My qns is how do the guys manage to survive being the only sole income provider?
Somemore with the octracising of foreigners, language barrier/culture difference, my foreign wives friends have problem getting along with the hb's family/relatives too since all are also living under one roof.
what this bro said is 100% true. i married a foreign wife. she's good. and understands. but there's some things that are un-avoidable.
they come thinking this way:
- have a better life from last time
- able to get more luxuries than last time, especially if they have friends who are always fighting who has the more expensive bags, bigger house
- there's always a hidden cost which are unforeseen
when u marry foreign wifes think clearly, don't get both parties into a sad situation. make sure u love her and in mentally prepare for much heavier responsibilities than being with a local wife.
My friends who are earning on par or probably more than the hb doesn't even dream of getting a luxury bag , they are quite tight especially for those with >2 kids and aging parents.
There's no such thing as taking household $$ from the hb, they are contributing a fair share to the household now with the increasing expenditures. Tuitions for the kids are coming close to 1k?
Let me do a break down on my situation when i marry my wife.
I'm not cannon-ing but all i need is just 5k.
Banquet machiam our Getai outside her house - 20 table = approx 80sgd per table. - 1600sgd
Brought a wedding ring - 4xx sgd.
Buy some decoration to deco her house - 100 sgd
Rental of wedding gown in vietnam cost ard 150-200 sgd.
I considered myself super duper lucky.
And finally her mum told me It's not $ that make it worth.
All her mum want is for her to lead a better life.
That is what my wife translate to me from her mum's words.
Why they do not want to marry their local men?
I'm not racist but they men is violent(They beat their wife for what ever reason) "correct me if i'm wrong".
They can sit at the coffeeshop to swing whole day long and live off their wife spending.
My wife is currently working in F&B line in Singapore.
My wife pick-up mandarin quite well but it's funny mandarin to me.
Any bros have any queries? Drop them here and i would gladly answer.