Matters of the Heart.Has a Commercial Fuck turned into a torrid Love Affair which has turned your life upside down? Fear not. We have experts here who can help you through your roller coaster ride. Tell us your story and we'll do our best to help.
You are not alone in this journey. Many bros have experienced similar sexual and emotional connections with non-official partners. Many in this forum would attest to that.
Sex is a physical act that generates pleasure and fulfilment to our needs. However when we find fulfilment in our partner, we start to pin for them and look to them to fulfil our other needs which is where the trouble starts. These partners are transient in nature (FWB / KTV / ML / SB etc) and often money is the primary motivating factor for them. It is a simply a phase in their life, nothing less nothing more. We however conflate and confuse sexual intimacy with emotional intimacy. Many bros do, you are not the only one.
The good news is that the forest is large and there is someone out there that would be able to take her place and I know this from personal experience. This could be an official or non-official partner. The first thing you need to do is to get out there and explore your surroundings. Try different experiences and see if there is any that is able to fulfil that void. It would take time though and that is ok.
When my one of my overseas FWB learned that I was getting married, that's where it ended. She also felt that casual sex isn't as fulfilling anymore. I never confused sexual intimacy with emotional intimacy. I want to continue fucking her. She has great ass, super tight pussy and such a pleaser in bed.
After it pretty much ended, I jokingly told her that I was so sexually satisfied with her that I don't mind paying for the experience. She somehow told me she is fine if I want to pay her that she actually did think of making more money.
I had my hopes high because of it, then she became unreachable.
To this day, 3 years later I still think of having sex with her again.
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-we only live once-
-I tried to be a heartless bastard, I couldn't.... -
She started a romantic relationship, hence we ended.
I wished her well and she more than deserves a good man in her life!
Sad for me but truly happy for her!
Yes indeed. That’s a line too from the movie 那些年. Had similar encounter too 10 years ago. Still haven’t gotten over her completely. It is bittersweet to see blissful photos of her and her hubby and kids on social media.
i just met a girl, interested in me to be bf gf, but i want it to be fwb only, how to i go about doing it ? we slept together once. any advice ?
I'm not a saint but I suggest being honest that you are just interested in a fwb relationship. Being a 'fake' bf may get you many free fucks, but emotionally damaging a woman is not something I would do, especially if she is not looking for a casual relationship but one leading to marriage down the road.
Sometimes we let our small head overrule our big head, but this is just my personal opinion. Good luck to whichever route you take!
i just met a girl, interested in me to be bf gf, but i want it to be fwb only, how to i go about doing it ? we slept together once. any advice ?
Don't be that asshole who lied to women about his true intent just to get free sex. Everyone deserves to find their happiness and everyone deserves to find that other someone who wants them in their entirety, including the bad parts and not just the good parts.
Be very clear of your intentions with her, tell her that, and make sure she understands it clearly and do not entertain the dating elements prior to sex. I repeat DO NOT. Because when you start doing that, you are basically playing the BF role. And when you play that role... You are the BF, no matter how you want to deny it.
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-we only live once-
-I tried to be a heartless bastard, I couldn't.... -
Don't be that asshole who lied to women about his true intent just to get free sex. Everyone deserves to find their happiness and everyone deserves to find that other someone who wants them in their entirety, including the bad parts and not just the good parts.
Be very clear of your intentions with her, tell her that, and make sure she understands it clearly and do not entertain the dating elements prior to sex. I repeat DO NOT. Because when you start doing that, you are basically playing the BF role. And when you play that role... You are the BF, no matter how you want to deny it.
yup agree with you did not lead on yet, we just met and she interested in making this relationship serious. maybe i rephrase , how do i phrase it to her ? reduce disappointment because not yet lie or led on but its what she wants moving forward.
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Eating popcorn and watching porn with good plots. A believer that all guys watch porn. Whichever guy says he doesnt, is lying.
I'm not a saint but I suggest being honest that you are just interested in a fwb relationship. Being a 'fake' bf may get you many free fucks, but emotionally damaging a woman is not something I would do, especially if she is not looking for a casual relationship but one leading to marriage down the road.
Sometimes we let our small head overrule our big head, but this is just my personal opinion. Good luck to whichever route you take!
agree with you maybe should have rephrased the post. we are in a fwb situation. just that she want to make it bf gf, i dont know how to phrase the conversation , should it start, so keep things as it is.
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Eating popcorn and watching porn with good plots. A believer that all guys watch porn. Whichever guy says he doesnt, is lying.
agree with you maybe should have rephrased the post. we are in a fwb situation. just that she want to make it bf gf, i dont know how to phrase the conversation , should it start, so keep things as it is.
this one unfortnately no goood way la just as tactful as can be i also cannot think of how to phrase it
Recently ended a 1yr+ relationship with a fwb, and feeling sadness and emptiness inside.
It was crazy how we started but suffice to say I won't find another fwb easily again (without deep pockets). We had a common understanding not to reveal our real identities (names, company, etc) as we were both local professionals. Nevertheless, we have a good time having lunches/dinners, and good intimacy with some memorable 5-star hotel fun on important occasions for us.
Probably because I'm divorced, hence looking for a little bit more then bang&go FL-type as my emotional jar is empty. It was good to have someone to chat with (even just on a weekly basis) after a tiring week at work. Now that it has ended, I don't feel the urge to look for FL so I guess its not just the sex. I understand intellectually that this day would come, but I still feel emotionally affected at this moment.
Wondering if any bro/sis went through the same thing?
yours at least 1 yr. mine 3 months nia. not enough sia. now she had a kid with someone else... i dont mind continue the discreet fwb with her if she wants.