advice needed, not sure if my gf is cheating?

[nonthewiser]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Is there a VPN app on her phone? That could explain the KL server.

this.. i am not sure as i never check or snoop on her phone

maybe she got vpn due to her company communication tools? this again..i cannot be certain

but u brought out a possibility tat she used vpn

she definitely did not travel to KL cos her passport is together with my passport in the drawer at my place
unless she has a way to travel using another gal's passport ??? but highly unlikely, if so, this will be a big mystery

[nonthewiser]

Originally Posted by nobnob

Aiyo! Till now you don't know that there's VPN app exist? Singapore Netflix got some dramas or movie that cannot be viewed using SG IP and you must use VPN to fake your location outside Singapore to watch certain movies la!

Go download one VPN and try yourself.

Don't need to think this and think that, GF is GF, she wanna cheat, you also cannot control, if you suspect like a freak, no matter how much she love you and sincere to you, she will leave you before of your control freak. I'm very blunt here and I was in your shoe before and after many years look back, everything is just a small matter, you will find the one that is for you.

thx bro.. blunt and honest feedback n advice is good
get what u mean n i am learning to take a step back and let it be

[nonthewiser]

Originally Posted by Banaber

is she tech savvy on VPN? else a trip to KL without notice is explanatory.

dont start snooping on her phone if you are not prepared for it. the sense of security you looking for will not be obtained by checking her device.
when you are already doubtful, if her device is clean, you may feel she wiped clean. if not, are you ready to split up?

she not realli tat tech savvy but there could be a possibility she might have vpn. and her passport at my home all the while

just to clarify.. actually i did not look or snoop into her phone at all. juz happen to log into Netflix on web browser which i have not done so for a long time

and saw the device log in history hence ponder

[graniph]

depends on the wifi setup / provider
you can have a singtel connected router but connect to another firewall and tunnel to some other country and it could show that country's ip.

you can be tired from each other and just want some me-time.
bros above gave some good advice.
until you have concrete evidence or very high sus, then think of contingency.
dont waste time over-thinking over what has not happened yet.

[Starscream23]

Bro, when in doubt do it like how the wives do;

1) Check handphone - photos (look into recently deleted), WhatsApp (media), SMS, google maps history, last google searches, etc

2) Invest in one of those mini spy cam that can be lodged discreetly at home

3) Hire a private investigator

4) Call her out to justify herself

[ChrisSutton]

If suspicious then no trust.

[Office365247]

Originally Posted by ChrisSutton

If suspicious then no trust.

My exact sentiments.

[meninblack2]

nice reading

[smittenbyml]

Originally Posted by nonthewiser

this.. i am not sure as i never check or snoop on her phone

maybe she got vpn due to her company communication tools? this again..i cannot be certain

but u brought out a possibility tat she used vpn

she definitely did not travel to KL cos her passport is together with my passport in the drawer at my place
unless she has a way to travel using another gal's passport ??? but highly unlikely, if so, this will be a big mystery

Seems like youre already pretty suspicious. I realized even when a few bros here have told you examples of possible coincidental events, you're still worried.

If you really want some answers, I think you'll have to hire a PI. And ofc if youre going this path, dont confront your gf first in order not to alert her. Only confront when you have the evidence at hand. Otherwise, never doubt her again.

Getting a PI should be expensive, but I feel that if it helps to give you peace of mind, it's certainly worth it.