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In the eyes of the law, all that matters is that assets are split as fairly as can be measured by contribution, and/or the supporting spouses means, and the extent to which one spouse has been financially supported by the other. The court will not be awarding anybody extra because it was ‘not their fault’ or any such crap. And if there’s a child or children, all that matters is what the court believes is best for them. There is no such thing as fault being factor in dividing assets or access to kids, or rubbish like the women’s charter always protecting women. If there’s any ‘protection’ of women, it is only in the generally accepted idea that they should be the default caregivers to children and a very high bar is set for men who want full time care of the children. |
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In last two years, rental increased crazy from 1.5k for tiny studio to 2.5-3k in cheaper areas of Woodlands in the north. Now property agents are lining people up at flat viewing and asking them to bid for the highest price. Heard this from 3 separate people. Market is very bad if you want to rent and you can also lose your job with layoffs, soon. My company already did 2 rounds of layoffs. Let me tell you my last rental viewing 6 months ago when my wife really pissed me off, I went looking. 2.6k in Woodlands, small studio, dual key unit, not full privacy, no access to balcony, you don’t have like a store room. There is a kitchenette but for show, the landlord prefer you don’t cook at all, maybe only instant noodles. Also she kepo and sus about your girlfriend visiting and staying time to time. She is worried the utility bill will go too high. I didn’t want to nego and she had ton of desperate tenants queued up, so there is that. Also the owner hogs the car park, I have to pay for hdb car park and go outside condo to park my car and come back, wtf. Landlords and agents are having a field day. Be ready for inflated accommodation costs if you’re moving out.
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Was yours contested to involve judge? Wife being a pessimistic and negative person, she very fearful of her income. She wants to keep the house and give me 25% of what I contributed. But she say I no need to pay for kids maintenance. Wonder if this will work out. Either way I will end up paying probably around 200k til the baby reach adulthood. Or I lost my 200k to her now. Either I get lump sum now and pay maintenance, or I start fresh, but I free from maintenance. Dilemma. Is there even such thing as lump sum settlement for kids maintenance? But sometimes I don't want her to freely gain the 4rm flat at such cheap price. Want her to suffer some hardship alittle as I can't forgive her for years of verbal BS from her mouth. But the kid will suffer with her which isn't what i want to see. |
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so how much was her share of the flat? as in there is no reason that she can claim the whole flat (not that she won't try).
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divorce with a child is a little complicated. show the court that uve been paying mortgages,bills etc. try ur best u keep u child
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Done that when my kid was 3 years old.
Similar situation. I would say, my financial situation is better AFTER the divorce. But that might specific to my situation. If she never contributes anything, and you paying, let's say 80% of the expenses, after divorce, everything becomes 50-50. |
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Life is meangingless
Life with no kid by your side is even more meaningless. Such life is very frightening |
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Would it be better if wife is still healthy and working, kid(s) grown up above 21y.o.? Easy to divorce and will not ruin that bad in terms of financial?
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Many kids get totally fucked up by their parents staying together, but people tend to focus only on kids of failed marriages. |
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Wife never know when to stop with her critisms, contempt, lack of respect, even called my family members mentally unstable. Life at home can be very unstable, and can't plan ahead because dunno when shit will start again and your daily mood becomes negative. In the beginning, it's just unhappiness at home. Prolong the situation, it becomes part of u, and u go to work unhappy too, then ur friends start to notice too, u just being constantly unhappy because of a unhappy home. Then peace comes, it last for 2 weeks then shit starts again. Half my marriage is war, half is peace. I changed, I try to be nicer, but wife can't understand she makes mistake too, everything is my fault. It's different if she's just too pride to admit wrong, vs she really believe she has no wrong. U can't reason anything. U can't move forward in life, like something dragging u if the partner doesn't improve together. Not proud of being a family man. I start to dislike when ppl ask abt my child, because i don't even feel like one, more like a provider and trusted helper in times of needs. That's all. All suggestive will be counter with "u know nothing", words are harsh and piercing when my wife does her verbal defends or attack. Yeah I'm abit sensitive with insults n harsh words, but I don't think I turn out like this without all the years of contempt and critism, lack of respect, inability of her to admit any wrongs, lack of consideration for me. |
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I feel you bro as my wife is also like that having been married for 30 over years. She is just like the PAP; can do no wrong and she is not at fault and has the monopoly of wisdom.
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Complete lack of ability to listen is a really a big no for me. We fought over this issue before, ended up the arguement I was wrong to make her not listen. |
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we quarreled during the initial years of marriage but as years went by, I found that it was not healthy mentally for us and the children as well so I learnt to compromise while my wife also done her part. To be frank, she is a great housewife and mother to our children which I neglected them when I was pursuing my career. Just have to console myself that nobody is perfect.
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how long have you been married? perhaps getting someone who your wife is closed to or look up to and let this person give pointers on making your marriage work.
I suspect your wife thought the marriage counsellor was just an outsider and would not take in his/her views seriously. By the way, how did you get this marriage counsellor and how much did it cost? |
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