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Monogamy is a human construct, which goes against human nature.
I am not cheating, just following my natural instincts.
Jokes aside, it's always down to the fulfilment of some need that one is not getting from the wife/girlfriend, isn't it?
For some it's purely physical, perhaps a specific and particular sexual act (fetishes that the partner isn't interested in or finds gross), or just not getting it enough/at all. Or not getting it in the way that commercial sex can make one feel.
For others, it might be emotional. Especially after kids - most of the conversation centre around the kids and kids' needs. To me, this is the more dangerous arena - the 'real' cheating that can lead to divorce.
You don't listen to Van Gaal, big mistake!
不听老人言,吃亏在眼前
This is a good outlet for me to voice out too I guess. Me and my gf were both virgins when we got tgt and were each other's first serial partner. But upon trying sex and having it regularly, curiosity got the better of me as I started wondering how see would be like with other women.
I guess it also stems from the fact that I've always been very morally upright and abstained from doing things like being a fuckboy, going clubbing or visiting brothels/MLs. Having sex for the first time was like opening Pandora box for me. Now I wanted to try it all and as much of it as I could.
So I came onto this site and visited some of the working ladies on he
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at the end of the day, men are all wretched, so going out and getting these urges out of your system, sometimes may help to make you a friendlier person at home i feel.
I'm in an healthy relationship but I still have fwb and visit the massage parlours to have my handjob. lol. I do question myself why am I being such a demon and want to just suicide for being such a selfish person.
anyone in the same shoes? healthy relationship but have fwb and visit massage parlours?
Too much money
Too much time
Too much energy .
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No time for points exchange .
NSA .
I'm in an healthy relationship but I still have fwb and visit the massage parlours to have my handjob. lol. I do question myself why am I being such a demon and want to just suicide for being such a selfish person.
anyone in the same shoes? healthy relationship but have fwb and visit massage parlours?
this is not healthy relationship. you going outside to fulfill sexual needs means your relationship cannot fulfill it. one point of unhealthy relationship. second point u need to lie to go to these places.
By cheating you mean having affair, or seeking paid companionship via the different services talked about here on sbf?
My first gf became my wife a few years ago, and she essentially forced me to marry her for a very stupid reason. Although she is very sweet and loving, she has very bad mood swing and our unplanned marriage and bto (no children, no pregnancy involved) turned my life upside down and almost financially ruined me. Also she can be very insistent on having things her way, and nagging about everything, ie Princess. I am still trying to recover from it as we paid our wedding and bto with our own money (but just found out her parents actually gave her 6 figure sum and she never use WTF), and since then I just don't feel any emotions from our relationship. I just pretend and act like everything is OK. Sex with her also quite sian tbh, she will keep talking during sex and saying stupid things which she thinks is cute but tbh I find turn off. Then during sex complain this pain that uncomfortable this one don't like, everytime end up dead fish position. She still wants sex but every time machiam I am the fl servicing her.
So I chiong lor, sex with fl/wl is more enjoyable. But I will never see it as anything more than commercial. Lately I like to go KTV pub though, as all my friends are guai kia, they see all these activities as dirty so I go myself drink and sing song and release, got bu to accompany me play game and hold my arm hug me drink with me, and I give them tip for their company.
By cheating you mean having affair, or seeking paid companionship via the different services talked about here on sbf?
My first gf became my wife a few years ago, and she essentially forced me to marry her for a very stupid reason. Although she is very sweet and loving, she has very bad mood swing and our unplanned marriage and bto (no children, no pregnancy involved) turned my life upside down and almost financially ruined me. Also she can be very insistent on having things her way, and nagging about everything, ie Princess. I am still trying to recover from it as we paid our wedding and bto with our own money (but just found out her parents actually gave her 6 figure sum and she never use WTF), and since then I just don't feel any emotions from our relationship. I just pretend and act like everything is OK. Sex with her also quite sian tbh, she will keep talking during sex and saying stupid things which she thinks is cute but tbh I find turn off. Then during sex complain this pain that uncomfortable this one don't like, everytime end up dead fish position. She still wants sex but every time machiam I am the fl servicing her.
So I chiong lor, sex with fl/wl is more enjoyable. But I will never see it as anything more than commercial. Lately I like to go KTV pub though, as all my friends are guai kia, they see all these activities as dirty so I go myself drink and sing song and release, got bu to accompany me play game and hold my arm hug me drink with me, and I give them tip for their company.
How did you ‘essentially’ be forced to marry her?
She obtained a gun and threatened to shoot you in the head?
She obtained a gun and threatened to shoot you in the head?
Well i loved her a lot, so that time she threatened to break up if we didn't get married that year even though we had actually sat down to plan to get married a few years later after I was more financially stable.
Well i loved her a lot, so that time she threatened to break up if we didn't get married that year even though we had actually sat down to plan to get married a few years later after I was more financially stable.
Basically you made a choice, you’re not happy about it now and somebody else gets the blame.
It’s always so easy to do that. Don’t blame you for doing it, but that is exactly what you’re doing.
Basically you made a choice, you’re not happy about it now and somebody else gets the blame.
It’s always so easy to do that. Don’t blame you for doing it, but that is exactly what you’re doing.
What you say is true and I know, I am essentially unhappy that I chose that path. All I want to do now is to improve my career and make lots of money haha
What you say is true and I know, I am essentially unhappy that I chose that path. All I want to do now is to improve my career and make lots of money haha
Ah ha, I was in the exact same same boat.
Nothing like focusing on making money now, for mine’s own happiness and no one else’s.
Why don’t you get a divorce? Make a path correction.
Nothing like focusing on making money now, for mine’s own happiness and no one else’s.
Why don’t you get a divorce? Make a path correction.
the people who say money not important are the people who already have it. money can buy happiness. how? got money dont need to work can do what you want. hahaha
I have a friend who was in this similar situation. She went for a divorce, now she’s even happier than before.. I guess it’s the difficult choices you have to make at the start, which might seem impossible to do, but the outcome can be a blessing.
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Ah ha, I was in the exact same same boat.
Nothing like focusing on making money now, for mine’s own happiness and no one else’s.
Why don’t you get a divorce? Make a path correction.