Dear Sammy,
Having cheong for more than a month in HCMC - Vietnam, I realize the local Vietnamese men / boys are hopeless. Most of them are jobless and make their wife / gf work in beer om, cafe om, massage mat ... even the FJ joint.
Saw their boy boy picks them up after-work on motor-bikes / scooters paid by the girls' pussy $. These men / boys sometimes at a distance see their wife / gf goes overnight after work, not knowing they've OT, they waited while drinking somewhere near on those small table, tiny chairs.
Seems like it's an unique culture here, somehow similar to Thailand in its earlier days. Compared to these men, my ego is as HIGH as the sky, as WIDE as the ocean as no way I can tolerate such from my partner