To all bros here who have vợ VN or who are thinking of having vợ VN, I've read through your several threads on VGs and I do really appreciate your effort to understand VGs and treat VGs nicely, not like those Koreans/TWneses (not all of them though) who just "purchase" VGs to be their bx and treat the gals like shit. In return, I hereby will try my best to share with you my limited knowledge bout VN culture/tradition, normal VNmese thinking etc.. Please kindly note that my experiences are based on what I observed as a VN northerner guy, whilst most of your VGs are southerners, so things might be slightly different.
Money matter. VGs often want you to give their relatives/family money (especially those from the country side), even if she loves you and not trying to KC you (btw, I'm not sure if I understand correctly KC
, is it Kiếm Chác, or a Singaporian word?). That's not just because she wants to show off (well, it's partly show off), but also she wants her relatives to know that her ox chiều her, care about her, and she has a happy/wealthy life with you. Since you are foreigners, the relatives would expect that your are richer than average Vguys (and that's true). Therefore if you give them too little money at some important/special events (Tet holiday, weddings..), they may think that their gal is unlucky cause she's married to a mean guy. But if you give them too much money, they may find that's easy earn money and start to want more from you. So, how much is enough..
Following is a good example from bro volcano (with my opinion in red) on how much is enough for ang pow in Tet/Lunar New Year (which is quite near, 3 months frm now yay
). The amount of ang pow bro volcano gave is actually close to city standard for a middle class Vguy, in the country side it could be less. And, as mentioned, you are (expected to be) richer than Vguys, so applying city standard to village ppl is actually just nice.
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Originally Posted by volcano
how much shld the amt of ang pow be actually depends on oneself.everybody has a different view.just to share mine with u...
50k - could range frm 50k to 100k, depends - all those relatives that are close and below the age of 18
200k - up to 300k, depends - really close relative that is above 18 years old.
1)the nephew of my wife,parents divorced since he was only 6 years old,and bcos both parents re-marry,so he actually stay with my wife's family until he went to work 2 years ago.
2)wife of my younger BIL
500k - my younger BIL
1 million - MIL
next year i need to prepare a BIG ang pow for my 'little darling'...newborn son of my BIL which will also address me as 'pa'.still dunno give wat,most likely will be something memorable instead of cash.
small reminder.....
sometimes,'money minded' distant relatives which never met for years will suddenly appear out of nowhere when they 'receive wind' that there is a new 'foreign money god'....then its best time for u to be a 'blind and deaf' person liaoz....u know wat i mean....----GOOD to follow
btw,its always gd to experience the life of staying at a village,after that then we will really appreciate and not take for granted of wat we have in modern city life.hope u will have a memorable trip.  |