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Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes, when both are angry, better not talk for a while till both cool down. Normal viet gals from the province place a lot of emphasis on their parents and family in the province. My wife told me before `even if my mother treats me badly and is crazy, she is still my mother and i will still provide for her'. This is despite the fact that her parents didn't give her much education and the amount of time she feeds her parents is more than the amount of time her parents feed her. These viet gals are most sensitive when you want to control her spending on her family, they will say you look down on her family. I am sure this hot topic always create havoc for bros who has viet spouse. Maybe i am just plain stingy, i do not like to provide for my in-laws as i feel they are damm lazy, only know how to influence my wife for the sake of getting money from me. I make it very clear to my wife that my money is for my 3 children education, not for other uses (trying to hint to her that her family can forget about pinching money from me). Most of the time my wife is alright, she will only not be alright if her sibling comes to my house to stay for a week or so when her sibling will try to brainwash her, then finally, my wife and i will have a heated argument. Damm, my experience tells me that marriage is not between 2 person, its between 2 families. If one family is greedy, it spells trouble for the other....

We want to strike a balance also difficult .. sighzzz