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Originally Posted by serioussillyguy
Some bros here married a viet as wife for years..how u feel about their character and emotional?
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As with any other relationships, vietnamese wives notwithstanding, there is always the honeymoon period. This is the time when you date and enjoy with no serious thoughts about the future. You enjoy the moments as it is and that is all that matters.
However, when you decide to settle down, many important issues will crop up and you will have to make serious decisions on how the two of you want to live together. This is the start of the testing times between any couples as you will start to make many decisions together. Of course, with issues to be handled, the instances of disagreements increases as well. So it is not fair to compare to the times when you first know your partner.
Character wise, they tend to be more family oriented and takes care of the family. Initially, their thoughts will be on their family back home cos that's about the only family they have. Like bro SingViet have mentioned, it will be crucial that you slowly let her know that your very own family right here in SIngapore needs attention as well. Without kids, I would say its somewhat harder to convince them. With kids, you might find the convincing part much easier.
Emotionally wise, I feel although they always appear strong on the outside, they are actually quite fragile on the inside. Which means to say that they still very much depend on you for emotional support. Think of it this way- They are in a foreign country with no or limited friends. Unlike yourself, you grew up in SG and have many friends and kakis and activities to choose from. They only have u and a handful of friends. So its pivotal that you allocate enough time and attention to her.
Depending on how you know her, you might want to minimise her contact with some friends especially those that she knows from her previous night-spot stints - for obvious reasons!
I think I mentioned this before but I'll say it again - Most of them will just keep quiet and refuse to tell you why they are furious with you. They feel that since you have done something to infuriate them, its your duty to find out why and then pacify them.
However, just remember that most of them are 嘴硬心软 or "mouth hard heart soft" so just be the gentlemen and coax a little to find out what's wrong.
