Originally Posted by raverboy
The New Year has come and gone and it’s already nearly March. I haven’t been keeping up with my New Year’s resolutions and since I have nothing better to do (haha), I have decided to take stock in another way - to post about some of my experiences meeting Vietnamese women since moving to Ho Chi Minh City about 7 months ago and living here full-time since then.
More specifically, the aim of this post is to serve as a wake-up call for those of you who are thinking of anything long term (LTR, marriage?) with any Vietnamese woman who was previously, is currently, or is thinking of getting involved in commercial sex (which is what this forum is about) i.e. the transaction of the girl’s time and company and/or sexual services for money. In HCMC, this would comprise girls working at all KTVs, bia-oms, bi da-oms, FL bars, disco FL and PR girls, hair wash salon girls, etc. etc. Even girls you meet in nightclubs who seem to be just 'normal, regular girls'. Since the average income in Vietnam is around VND 2.000.000 / month (about SGD 174 /month using current rates), those of us who live here know that the line between FL and non-FL is quite fuzzy, i.e. very big ‘grey zone’. For the Vietnam lao-jiaos, this is intended as leisure reading. I am sure this post will ruffle some feathers out there – some of you may take this as if I am ‘gei kiang’ or boasting about my experience or that I am making this up. You may choose to believe me or not, but most of all, it is my own personal wake-up call to living in Vietnam and knowing how the game is played here. The following are my own personal experiences, in no particular order; names have been changed to protect the not-so-innocent:
This is just a sample and there are many more but the end result is the same, so I will stop here. So basically since I arrived in HCMC I have now come full circle after 7 months and am still a (single) happy f*cker.
Conclusion: In Vietnam, unless you meet a girl from a rich family (0.01% of the population), the girl is in it for the money and you have to contend with the kind of bullshit as described above. Pardon my straightforwardness but please, don't think your fairy tale romance is real, that your bx from Can Tho or the Mekong Delta which you met in some bar in Joo Chiat bar or along L42 or at Volcano truly loves you. If not for your foreigner status and your spending power and the chance to get out of the shithole she lives in, she would not be with you. Go ahead and try. Tell me if I am wrong. Then again, this is just my 0.02 cents.
I end this post with some memorable quotes that I am reminded of:
“If I have money, I no live Vietnam. I am Vietnamese, but Vietnamese people very bad!” – my regular xe om driver, in his late 50s.
“In Vietnam, guys you can trust hard to find, girls you can fuck, too many.” – a fellow Singaporean who visits here regularly and is a member of this board.
“99.99% of ALL WOMEN you meet in Vietnam are in it for the money.” – my best friend in HCMC
The last quote above I find to be fairly concurrent with the percentage of the population who are considered rich in Vietnam - a 'guess-timate' of around 0.01% of the population. 0.01% of 80 million is 8,000.
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