[mike1304k]

I have been looking at many threads here and most of them say that WL's are not good and so on. However, being a WL does not mean that you are not human beings and some of them are actually doing so because of circumstances beyond their control. Please allow me to share 2 stories of 2 frens I hold dear in my heart and I hope that we can also gain some hope from there:

1) A fren from a neighbouring country was slowly building up his business and had to bring clients to a KTV to entertain his clients. He got to know this lady working there and they fell in love. Though times were tough for him, he offered her a way out. He would look after her and would pay for her to study. After 4 years, she graduated from a local university and he gave her money to start a small business. However, due to his own circumstances, he had to marry someone else as a business marriage. Initially, when the lady found out about it, she was very hurt. She disappeared and he could not find her. But then one day, the two of them met again in a shopping centre and they got into contact again. They are now still frens, she is a successful business woman and he is a successful business man.

The moral of the story is that when we help someone, be it out of love, out of lust and or any other reasons, we should do it without asking for what the other party cannot give. We should also not try to give what we cannot give. While it lasts, enjoy it, if it ends, then let it end nicely. I respect my fren for sticking to his guns and also not stringing the lady along. He could have had 2 women, both would have filled his fantasies. But he made a clear cut and even when he made the cut, he was honourable to the lady.

2) My other fren had a penchant for going to strip clubs. It was easy and cheap thrill and he could walk away from it without any fuss. One day, he was walking along a street when he saw one of the strippers. She remembered him and he also remembered her. So they started a conversation and went for a coffee. He did not ask her out just for sex, but he just wanted to be a fren.

They kept in contact and became lovers and a couple. She decided to quit stripping and live a normal life and because of her decision, my fren asked her to marry him. They spoke about their past lives...(before marriage) time to time, but in a way that is non judgemental and also in a way that if he did not frequent the joint and if she were not there, they would not be together anymore. They are now happily married and have a son.

Moral of the story: If you decide to love someone from the WL world, then you should be able to let the past be the past and not allow it to trouble you. You must never take the past as a weapon and use it to hurt the lady. I really respect this fren too because he did not ask the lady to go out with him so that he can have sex with her. Just keeping her company was his aim and it paid off handsomely. She is a lovely woman, who takes care of him and gives him all the love he requires.

I hope that these stories will give some a hope, but of course you must be very careful of WL and their traps. If you take the plunge, then you will have to be able to climb out. Whether the result is good or bad, you will always have to be prepared. For me, I never had such luck, so I will always just treat having sex with a WL as a business transaction. Give me what I want and I pay you. No emotions, no fuss.

Cheers and peace out.