Hi Bro,
Mine is a slightly longer story than yours but I won't highjack your thread.
Anyways, after a wife and a girlfriend, I too was down in the dumps.
And I am an anti-social person too.
Being horny (after suppressing it for so many years), I decided to surf SBF again and start cheonging. On my 3 or 4 gal, I got to know this gal and then somehow promise to go BKK to look for her.
My purpose of the BKK trip was to meet her and also visit 4 face buddha. Long story short, I had a nice time in BKK and when I came back, I had a sudden motivation to change my life.
I have since visited 3 fortune tellers to seek answers to certain queries that I have so that I can put them behind me. And also seek their advice on how I can "improve" my "kiam cai mia" (literal translation from hokkien - salted veg life). Why I see 3 fortune tellers? I was a non believer for many years and also good fortune tellers are hard to find.
I've also started exercising and going out
ALONE to shop and watch movies. I make it a point to think positively. Lately I've also met up with friends that I was close to previously to restart my social circle.
From my own lesson, I derive the follow for myself and
1. Try to find motivation again.
2. Go do the things that you couldn't do when married.
3. Find yourself (I still trying)
4. Make peace with yourself (I still trying)
5. Make new friends
6. Divorce should not be a stigma. I've started letting my friends know that I am divorced (though I think they guess long ago)
7. Catch up with old friends u have not seen in a while
8. Take a vacation
9. Learn a new skill
10. Pick up a hobby
Bro, picking up the pieces is hard. No matter how much advice people can give, you must want to pick up the pieces. I am still picking up the pieces and praying hard that my motivation to change myself does not waiver. Having people to talk to helps.
FYI, took me quite a while due to certain reasons. But after almost 3 years, I am currently on talking terms with my ex-wife and she like a good buddy right now.
One more thing. DON'T TALK TO NEGATIVE PEOPLE!!! Coz it will make you more negative. (I know coz I am a negative person trying to become more positive)
I wish you all the best in your journey to recovery.