[guyorgirl]

Before counselling, try to understand her issue, is there something that's hindering her from being intimate with you.

Like most bros here said, consider bringing back the thrill of courtship, taking her out, to let her relax and back to the days of youth. Something's lacking and prohibiting her from giving you pleasure.

Maybe something happened that she feels uncomfortable with, like enlarged pussy after birth or other physical matters. Girls are very conscientious about all the physical outlook of themselves, unlike men.

Let her understand your frustration of not getting it - not because you aren't getting any but because you feel that something is wrong and you want to help her share the burden.

I do applaud you for the keeping faithful part, do have a good chat with her first, see what she's lacking from you.

You can be a good father, good husband, but maybe what she lacks now is a good boyfriend and good lover. Find out what her love language is and move towards it. If she likes k-drama, try to catch up on the scene, ask if she'd like to go Korea etc...

My niece totally uninterested in anything also, but if you can strike the right chord with her, she will follow you everywhere even if she didn't want to go out in the first place. She tagged with my cousin who is into k-pop everywhere cos they have something in common. The last time I saw her is at my dad's birthday luncheon... lol else apart, there isn't much communication. Age gap also doesn't help here.