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Originally Posted by $$$$$$$$$
i wonder how you guys, can be so motivated and protect yourself so well from all this trap, i guess it still up to experience
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Sorry to hear your predicament but I agree with Bro Kopiosteve, just dun get into this mess. I myself started this ML game late....mid career, mid marriage....mid-life (crisis?). I rationalise that what I'm doing is simply a transaction. And I'm playing catch up.
The hard truth is that any relationship with an ML -if you call it that - is built on that $$ transaction. It won't be the same without the $$ and the MLs accept all sorts of clients simply because they have a need for $$.
My regular MLs know my likes and foibles well enough. I make no bones about what I want and need and expect they will acquiesce. Where I feel comfortable and feted the ML will enjoy the benefits of patronage and a decent tip fro the added effort.Where there is no "gum" - well no hard feelings - 1 man's meat is another's poison.
But that does not mean I treat them wrong. On the contrary kindness and civility begets its own reward. MLs like to be treated well - but there are bros who will spend $$ unnecessarily to impress them and inflate their egos. Then the claim their adverts are wron they dun do BJ, they are tired and their entire service level suffers. But all that happens also because we stoke their egos through great FRs with the resultant demands.
But what keeps me sane is I know that I mean little to them and that is the reality check we all need to keep our heads screwed on straight.
Anyway been busy and have hit the bucket list I put up last weekend and have visited 3 lasses so far this week with 2 more this weekend. Most of the FRs contributed by the bros on them are largely accurate so no reason to chew the fat unnecessarily. So far 1 meets the mark so she'll join the rotation list
. Hopefully there will be one more to the list this weekend and I'd have replaced my 2 leavers ZZ and MM.
