[prodigal2chance]

Hi guys,

glad to be back for the next important topic, ... It will be confronting yourself, your past...hugely important.

I read through some recent postings with regards to becoming frens with ML, develop relationship and heartaches when saying goodbyes. This shows we (including ML) are human with emotion, conscience and ability to show care and concern. This is why I want to share about...what some of us are actually looking for when we visit ML, especially our fav ones. These are not my saying/ theory, these are research facts shared to me by psychatrists and counsellors. I am sure some bros will find this amazing and helpful just as I have. Great news, some of your lives can potentially to be changed...drastically for the better!

1) Our past hurts and rejection(especially childhood)
Many of us do not have happy childhood. For a person to grow up emotionally healthy, it is important to the person to receive sufficent love, acceptance and affirmation from people important to us (eg our parents/caregiver/friends). For people who grows up without these, there usually is an emptiness/void within them, many thought they are the problem, they are not smart/ strong/ too fat/etc thats why they dont receive the love/ concern/acceptance that we all yearn for. Many develop poor self image withdraw into their shell or some become aggressive to fight for what they want.

Psychartrists says many people did not receive sufficent love/ concern/ acceptance/ affirmation and grow up in life with much pain and hurts. Some go into drugs to find relief. Many such people (especially guys) turn to pornography for quick pain relief from hurts and rejection. This doesnt mean you cannot be successful, there are many successful people out there who still feels empty and even miserable becaause of emotional emptiness. Im sure there are sme rich bros out there...

What is the point here? Many of us are emotionally hurt (we are not as macho or gungho as we hope) from our childhood days and we are still feeling empty inside to this present day. What some of us are actually looking for when we go to ML is the care/concern/acceptance that we have lost or never had. THIS IS HUGE guys! Some of us dont visit ML/ FL in search of lust but to find relief from our pain and hurt in life.

This is especially so for those of us who show compassion/ acceptance of ML as frens and almost definitely so for those who got emotionally involved with ML (I was also, so no shame bro). Ask yourself, do you always look for ML with your sex drive super high...or more likely we look for ML to find acceptance, especially our favourite MLs. I use to look for my fav MLs, I enoy visiting them, not entirly for the sexual pleasure. Sometimes as men, we try to be ML's saviour to make ourselves feel good or superior..actually we could be doing it because we are emtionally empty.

Conclusion : Many of us are not sex hungry perverts but are actually looking to ML for pain relief or for care/ concern/ acceptance. I was in this category and I want bros in this category to recognise that we are not sex perverts and can find relief/ acceptance of yourself in a healthier way. I am not preaching on religious ground, anyone with hurting past can receive couselling that they are not necessary a problem, learn to accept ourselves and move on to fufill your greater dreams.

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