[hil169]

'love you no matter how you love' is subjective. Men are visual creatures afterall. To maintain oneself even after marriage is no a want but a need. Signing on the dotted line is the ending of one chapter and the beginning of the next chapter. Both require the partners, husband and wife, to put effort into the relationship, be it maintaining yourself through diet and workout or showing TLC, the idea is to remain attractive to each other. No one likes a lazy person imo..perhaps you can work on both (diet and workout to lose weight, and showing more TLC or seduce him subtlely)