[LordAvernus]

Pardon me but after having stayed overseas for a long time, I find most Singaporeans, men and women included, quite fixated on a certain form of mindset that is not forward-looking. Perhaps it is to do with the fact that most of them have not travelled much or have remained in Singapore for a long time. But overseas, you find that people are not as fixated on the race as much as the chemistry. If you had stayed in Japan, Korea and China (yes, even China), you realise that people there are not so fixated on Western men. Yes they are curious and would like to find out more but the "obsession" with them is not as great as they are in Singapore. This, I realise, has to do a lot with their cultural richness and upbringing. Their culture is very strong and you realise that the girls there have more pride for their own culture and their own people. In fact, in Korea and Japan, you realise immediately that they would instantly prefer their own guys over guys from other cultures and nationalities unless you have something special or extra to offer that would intrigue them.

For Singapore, the sad reality is that the culture here is so eroded and weak that there is no strong "Singapore" culture. Many Singapore girls I know ( especially the young and ignorant ones) are brought up without proper upbringing and culture. They have little pride for their own race and culture and one might say, shameful to even be considered "Asian". They are imbued with images of white women and they want to reach that "status" where they are on par with white women. This is a cancer that has taken root in the Singapore psyche- foolishly worshipping everything western while rejecting their own race and culture. I don't mean to be racist here but you can see certain groups displaying this kind of unhealthy obsession. You see in Japan, Korea and China, the girls there do not lose their culture although they married western guys. The girls here will no doubt stubbornly deny this but the truth is, they are racist against their own people, whether they care to admit it or not.

Anyway, outside Singapore, these girls ( and in fact guys) will be surprised to know that their reality is false. Girls elsewhere ( and I mean non-Singaporeans) are not so fixated on race than on chemistry. There are tons of Asian guy- Other race women elsewhere. It is these ignorant girls in Singapore that keeps thinking there aren't and keeps wanting to put down their own guys to make themselves look superior and good ( pathetic losers if you ask me). They keep harping on how their guys are not flexible in thinking, not open- minded etc...Please. Stop the bullshit. Our guys are open-minded enough to marry Taiwanese, Whites, Latinas, PRCs and many others. Ask yourself why they are not "open-minded" to YOU. Perhaps, you should scrap your pathetic ego and ask yourself why NOT YOU. Do some soul-searching. Perhaps, you will realise that the one not "open-minded" is YOU. Not all Asian guys are that shallow and the fact that you are lumping everyone on the same boat without discrimination, ironically, portrays you as a pot calling a kettle black. So, please, cut the crap.

In any case, guys, Asian or Singaporean, need not despair. I dated girls from almost all cultures and nationalities, except Africans and Koreans and well, no such nonsense exist for them. When they reject you, its not RACIST. It's just that they are not into you as a person. But this rejection still beats a rejection based on RACISM, which I feel happens in Singapore. Which is why I stopped dating Singapore girls. I tried overseas ( including western girls). Trust me. You won't regret.