bro,
women cannot just turn on and off for sex. they are opposite of us.
meaning, you got to build that mood up with your wife. starting from the time you open your eyes till the actual action starts.
kiss her good morning and before u leave for work, kiss her again. assure her of the little things (like i love u etc) and keep sending short and sweet messages throughout the day. even if it is just a string of emoticons.
doing these are to build the mood (since she already told u no mood...build it!)
surprise her with a bouquet of flowers (many married couples forgotten they should still go for a date every time/every day). send her fav chocs or sweets. if not a sweet toothed person, send her something to cheer her up.
best, send her a sexy lingerie to her office! continue to build that mood...
dinner time, go for something memorable to both of u. e.g. the place where u both dine for the first time? memorable kiss location? wedding photo shoot? something to strike a cord with u both? (the feel good thing)
she experienced pain bcos she is not sexcited thus not lubricated naturally for your manhood to enter her.
we as men need to make it happen...tiring yes, but till you are able to create that conducive environment/mood for your wife, you both will continue to feel this way. make that extra effort. good relationship needs good maintenance just like your career or car or house or so many other things that require maintenance.
in time, you and your missus should enjoy your make out...
remember to get that moet...
