Originally Posted by funboi (Post 20584399)

1. Find prove of her mixing with other guys.

Accuse her of extra-marital affairs. If can prove she doing "immoral" then during divorce time can shoot her.

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2. Find prove of her working illegally or doing illegal work.

She work as freelancer etc. Actually even the new sg law also changed for spouse working permit. Again any "immoral" things she do can shoot her during divorce.

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3. Find out the method which she frequently use to send money back vietnam. And any paper trail for copy?

Again if can prove she have income or some kind of financial support esp. from "immoral" activities be good for divorce.

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4. Find out who got names as owner in the house.

Best is her name not inside and owner can draw up a WILL if possible. CPF side also can indicate.

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5. Find out if she already have PR or Citizenship.

If just PR only is best. If citizenship already then jialat.

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6. Find out the kid born sg or viet and have any passport.

No passport is best to avoid flight risk

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7. Install CCTV at home to record daily activities.

This can be use as prove she don't do any house work and go out and back late at night or maybe dress like KTV girl. Then show who been taking care the kid daily activities.

Above just personal opinion.

Originally Posted by Janee (Post 20584347)

Hi, had something on my heart.

my friend got married to a VN girl about 10 years back. Shotgun wedding, so now the kid is about 10 years old. Good kid, but seems a bit neglected by the mother, and the mother doesn't engage with maintenance of the household.

The VN girl doesn't give a fuck about his family, just living there to earn money and spend on makeup, clothes, surgery etc. Stays out late at night, drinks, making money for her family back home.

And my friend just living on and on, gave up on it.

He doesn't really love her, he just loves the kid. He owns the house (his only asset) and retired. He also has two (much older) kids, who live in the same house, and some other extended family members there too.

Weighing heavily on me bc I'm worried for my friend and the kid as well as his family.

I don't know how to convince my friend he should go for divorce, and what are the consequences and implications on his housing situation etc, how he can win the kid (if the mother decides to use him as a shield etc).

Looking for any bros with previous experience in this... how the courts will treat such a marriage, and how to show my friend this raw deal he's getting.

Originally Posted by Janee (Post 20584347)

The VN girl doesn't give a fuck about his family, just living there to earn money and spend on makeup, clothes, surgery etc. Stays out late at night, drinks, making money for her family back home.

And my friend just living on and on, gave up on it.

He doesn't really love her, he just loves the kid. He owns the house (his only asset) and retired. He also has two (much older) kids, who live in the same house, and some other extended family members there too.

Weighing heavily on me bc I'm worried for my friend and the kid as well as his family.

I don't know how to convince my friend he should go for divorce, and what are the consequences and implications on his housing situation etc, how he can win the kid (if the mother decides to use him as a shield etc).

Originally Posted by funboi (Post 20584425)

Again, check her employment status. Because new law kicks in. If she not even PR and kana offence maybe can cause revoke of her pass.

e.g. during her stay in sg using LTVP, she work illegally as ML caught during AV raid. Such offence is good for future divorce ingredients.

The CCTV thing must find excuses cuz very obvious. Can use excuse such as win lucky draw? Or upgrade house to become smart home with a few new items to make it less obvious. If occupants of the house already know about it and its placed at common areas then should have less issues. Can also use it to say monitor old people fall down etc esp if house really got old or sick people.

Originally Posted by funboi (Post 20584708)

Actually there are various possibilities. :D

1. TS is asking for himself. :p
2. TS aim his friend viet wife long time liao. :rolleyes:
3. TS find his viet wife sian already wana divorce without lose money. :eek:
4. TS really care for his friend. :)
5. TS is gay and love his friend. :eek: 5555

Sadly, this could be another tragic vietnam girl drama :( She could be living a hard life in sg cuz her husband ill-treated her since day 1. :(

Originally Posted by NoFearSg (Post 20586451)

Tell ur friend, be a man. The girl all the way married here, in hope of better lives. Now what she got? Of course, she will take care of her family back home first cos ur friend can’t work to provide for her and her family back home.

Tell ur friend don’t wear a high hat if he don’t have high head

Originally Posted by funboi (Post 20584708)

Actually there are various possibilities. :D

1. TS is asking for himself. :p
2. TS aim his friend viet wife long time liao. :rolleyes:
3. TS find his viet wife sian already wana divorce without lose money. :eek:
4. TS really care for his friend. :)
5. TS is gay and love his friend. :eek: 5555

Sadly, this could be another tragic vietnam girl drama :( She could be living a hard life in sg cuz her husband ill-treated her since day 1. :(

Originally Posted by NoFearSg (Post 20586451)

Tell ur friend, be a man. The girl all the way married here, in hope of better lives. Now what she got? Of course, she will take care of her family back home first cos ur friend can’t work to provide for her and her family back home.

Tell ur friend don’t wear a high hat if he don’t have high head

Originally Posted by Janee (Post 20584347)

Hi, had something on my heart.

my friend got married to a VN girl about 10 years back. Shotgun wedding, so now the kid is about 10 years old. Good kid, but seems a bit neglected by the mother, and the mother doesn't engage with maintenance of the household.

The VN girl doesn't give a fuck about his family, just living there to earn money and spend on makeup, clothes, surgery etc. Stays out late at night, drinks, making money for her family back home.

And my friend just living on and on, gave up on it.

He doesn't really love her, he just loves the kid. He owns the house (his only asset) and retired. He also has two (much older) kids, who live in the same house, and some other extended family members there too.

Weighing heavily on me bc I'm worried for my friend and the kid as well as his family.

I don't know how to convince my friend he should go for divorce, and what are the consequences and implications on his housing situation etc, how he can win the kid (if the mother decides to use him as a shield etc).

Looking for any bros with previous experience in this... how the courts will treat such a marriage, and how to show my friend this raw deal he's getting.

Originally Posted by iluvbreast (Post 20593585)

I will say the best advice is for your friend to consult a lawyer discreetly. Your friend should find out from the lawyer how best to prove that during the entire marriage, the wife:
- Did not contribute to the marriage, be it financially, physically (by caring the husband, in-laws, step children etc).
- The wife has means of surviving on her own after the divorce.

The truth is your friend's situation is a little sticky. Yes if she has affairs outside, your friend can divorce her, but her claim of maintenance is another matter entirely.

To protect your friend, the most important thing is to keep his child's passport so his wife cannot take the child away and use it as a bargaining chip. Also your friend should empty their joint account.