Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Agree with you on this!

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

bro , may i know how old are you??

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

well it depends on preference and if u like local sg girls then go for it or malaysian then go for it

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

and honestly there many sugarbabes from malaysia in sg... met a few of them and matched with few on tinder, sugarbook.com and some of them are really nice

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

well not all of them maybe you didnt meet the right one??

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

First of all, i like to apologise to bro xylphz for hijacking your thread.

very hard to come across this type of thread.

I just to get off my chest once and for all. i know a johor girl too.

i know her in 2010, taken a liking to her, but she rejected me on all three occasions.

She is quite a unique girl, she is those type cannot be alone one, must need guys attention one.
Until today, i do not know what word can be use to describe her.

she got married in 2017, we went our separate ways but still in same company.
i travelled , gym and got myself a house to forget her, which i really did.

so when covid 19 hit our shores last year, there was some reshuffling in our dept, we are back on talking terms.

she is having an affair with another colleague in the company. i guess her marriage is almost gone case liao.

the thing is , after talking to her almost after 3 years, i realise i haven't really forget her, all the emotions and feelings gush back.
even now, i aint sure whether i am her backup plan or what. she can be quite manipulative at times.

I been controlling myself to stop msg her , checking out her fb. because the sucky feelings is creeping in.

i need to move on with my life, i don't have another 10 years to waste.

I’m 28 this year

No problem at all, I’m glad that I’m not alone on this kind of issues!

I know I might sound contradicting to my past few replies (eg. Don’t expect anything in return) - what I feel is just maybe at least keep for memory sake regardless of reason cannot wear etc (first time receive this gift would remind of this person.) however what I feel now is just me being naive..... lesson learnt

Maybe bro hunkydunky, has encountered similar msian girls that are like that, our mind is a dangerous thing, once you encounter something negative it keeps dwelling deep and it’s very hard to get out of this shit hole. Even me myself included, that’s why I started this thread to make me wake up my idea and face the fact already.....

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

so what does your heart tell you?

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

if u girl u like , gave you a sneaker , would you sell it off?:)

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

TS ,love is a 2 way thing that doesn’t always live up to your expectations. If you want love open your heart. Love is not always nurturing it can hurt at times. Very rarely do 2 people agree on everything or have the same values. Its more about complimenting each other and accepting each other’s flaws. If you are fucking perfect then by all means expect a fucking perfect partner. Love can develop & grow over time, its not just fireworks at first sight.

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Nationalities won't matter as much as her character and her background is the one you should be focusing on.

I have dated several Malaysian Chinese before from different type of backgrounds.

One was a banker, from a well-to-do family, that has a good standard of living to maintain, which is normal for any woman to expect that they won't need to lower their standards by dating us. And upon learning that I have not settled yet in my career, she decided to move on.

Second was a VIP guests' liaison working for one of the casino here. Femininely attractive. She was raised by a single mother who struggled to raise 3 children by herself. Her aunt even had to help in paying for her education. Of all the 3 children, as the youngest one, she was the only one managed to get a Degree. And it's a Chemical Engineering degree. She is probably quite a smart girl.

She told me that her mother has a lot of expectations from her. This is understandable that she has the pressure to repay her mom's efforts and bring them out of their situation.

However, with the degree she had, upon graduation she decided to be VIP guests' liaison instead, where she regularly interacts with high spending gambling old men, who often approached her.

Her career choice is the sign of chosing the easiest & quickest way. And it showed. We went for about 6 dates and then suddenly she stopped responding when I asked about celebrating her birthday. Just like that. Ghosted.

Both of these women made their judgement call on what type of men that they need. And it's alright.

Re: thoughts on chasing malaysian chinese girls working in sg?
 

Don't you see it? It is how you think that causes your unhappiness. If you don't have such expectations, what she does subsequently does not matter. This applies to all aspects of your life too. not just for this incident.

She already told you she grew up in poverty and has spent many years thinking of how to get out of poverty. She also said she needs to take care of and repay many people. So the hint is you need to be able to take care of her family too. She is young and attractive now. Better get the right guy with the means than to waste her youth on you. 爱情与面包.

Just wish her well. She is a nice girl. She could have gotten a rich guy and not take care of those left behind in Malaysia.