Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

Somehow i always hear people say, when you marry a vietnam wife, you marry her whole family and have to take care of them too.

Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

TS brace yourself, i think changes take time. Plan your step and life you want to live for and act on it. Eventually you will be there sooner or later. dun rush it, that's the key. 1 step at a time.

Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

Same situation bro don't give up

Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

Just my two cents. It is not a problem. You haven't seen the number of guys in family court. Their neck being held up by the family court judge. After that, you sure will look forward to going home and being with your mean mum.

btw, your mean mum won't take 50% of your net assets (i mean gross assets), but a mean wife will certainly take 50% of your current and future assets.

Just because you feel restless doesn't mean you are in shit. Many people out here yearn to be with a mean mum, than a mean wife. A mean wife cannot be ejected without going through an expensive divorce. What more harm can your mum do? Drop rat poison in your lunch?

Take a day off and sit outside family court and observe the glee on the faces of the.... family lawyers and their wallets flushed with fees from their innocent and not so innocent (male) clients.

PS: You are what you define yourself to be. If you want to continue to lament over your life today, it will not change. Change starts today by changing the way you think.

PS PS: I got no idea why i wrote what I wrote, but i do hope this benefit some of the folks here. Your state of mind compounds what you are today. Its the inner self. If you are willing to pull yourself together, you wouldn't need any forums to whine. You will pull yourself together without any SOS.

PS PS PS: I'm not replying to any more forum posts. Been there done that. Have fun. I'm back to my life. Seen enough to know enough. Einstein said that insanity lies in repeating the same while hoping for different outcomes. Choice is within one's hands.

Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

I like this statement!! :D :D

Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

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Just because you feel restless doesn't mean you are in shit. Many people out here yearn to be with a mean mum, than a mean wife.
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bro, u r right : mean mum and mean boss is better than a mean wife
i see & pity many friends suffer with mean wife, they really suffer and eat shit everyday, got home also don't want to go home, rather sit in kopitiam

many pp staying in rental flats sharing with strangers - life is more mean and shit
u still hv a roof and a own room to yourself, at least u can sleep and ppc in peace

Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

see your luck lol ts, if you meet a good one good for you. If can't meet and you forcefully want to meet a girl you might end up with attitude girl whom if you marry will give you hell for the rest of life.

Hell can mean the girl keep nagging, sometimes she will tease you and say it under the facade of joking but she knows it is like bullying which you know don't feel good, withhold sex, always give attitude, criticise you, say why you so useless. This kind of girl can make people mental.

Admit it, finding a girl is easy for some guys but not for all guys. This one all guys know but some guys don't want to admit. Some guys maybe born to be more pleasing looking in eye of the girl, some guy born to be good at talking, some have brain good at making money, the rest are don't have look, don't like to talk much, average with making money.

In spite of all these, the attitude you should have is don't blame anyone or anything, once you are able to achieve that life will feel much broader, relaxing and breathable. Maintain a center of focus in yourself, don't blame and negative energy be gone.

If you feel you tried so hard liao but still cant meet girl then quiet your mind, be at peace with yourself.

Sometimes you will still feel like blaming but you must notice it immediately and hold yourself back, then just throw the thoughts away. Because it seems the negative thoughts can reach the girl even when she far away.

Sometimes you don't need a lot of money to meet another girl but most of the time that isnt so easy. Easy for some guys only.


You see mediacorp handsome guy elvin, desmond and romeo all old already but still single. look up to them.

Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
 

i agree with this.. :):)

i make peace with myself a few years back. Preparing to die alone. just ride off in the sunset.

but somehow the feeling of finding someone resurface back this year...