Originally Posted by korean (Post 14999851)

yes I stick to one. divorce is in interim judgement state now. no official breakup with 1st gf but we kind of let it fades off

Originally Posted by a2014 (Post 15003539)

@Korean, so you not going to China any more in this case right. I thought you said you want to go China to live with her ?

Originally Posted by Cheesebeast (Post 15002537)

Im in a long term relationship with my current gf of nearly 4 years. However, she's raised to be conservative and will only have sex after marriage. We only went as far as kissing and never engaged in anything sexual (bj or hj) in our four years together. Although I find it difficult to control my sexual urges but i never visited MLs of FLs (fear of diseases)

Then i met an old malay friend who became my first fb about a year ago, and got to know her chinese friend in the process. At first, it felt like I'm cheating on my gf but i convinced myself that i wasn't as i had no feelings for them. We were only using each other's bodies to satisfy our sexual urges with no emotions and both my fbs understood the situation. Don't get me wrong, i loved my gf and still do with our relationship going strong, but since she can't satisfy my desires, this arrangement was necessary for me.

I guess having a girlfriend and an fb at the same time is based on personal conscience. I also prefer having long term fbs as the risk of diseases are lower and we get to experiment more without feeling embarrassed. Plus get to enjoy fucking without condom as they are both on the pill

Originally Posted by korean (Post 15003593)

Yes I'm going to china next year as am currently waiting for final judgement of divorce and settle some stuffs first.

Originally Posted by ShaTauKokDog (Post 15006045)

So when will be the judgement day?:)

Originally Posted by ShaTauKokDog (Post 15006045)

So when will be the judgement day?:)

Originally Posted by korean (Post 14999864)

6th years anniversary! not easy n congrat bro! wise words too bro :)

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior (Post 15012317)

yes. went for a nice lunch buffet in a hotel.

went for a movie, then she asked for some romantic time together.

Was surprised and honestly not expecting it nor was in a horny mood, but I obliged.

seems she was particularly horny on her birthday so we had a good time. Sometimes you take what you can get. Normal days the sex is very sparse and ordinary.

The willingness to put effort in sex seems to be more psychological and emotional then a issue of physical ability.

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior (Post 15004768)

bro, you have my envy.

2fbs 1 Malay 1 Chinese who are on pill and you get hot sex from both of them? you are living the dream....

Originally Posted by porscheclub (Post 15023885)

Indeed. Living the dream!

Originally Posted by Cheesebeast (Post 15027809)

The sex was great at first but after a year its getting a little stale. However dont dare to lose them as once lost really hard to find replacement in our conservative society

Originally Posted by Xyberduke (Post 14938846)

Share a simple one.

My very last FB.
She was the best friend of my previous FB. Hung out together as friends. Me and my previous FB had an agreement, to only have one FB (each other). We both have respective spouses. This is to ensure that we maximize our availability. One day, I realized that she had three FBs. So that was the end, and we ended on a drinking night where we peacefully parted ways. At the smoking area, I was pretty high and smoking with her BFF. There she was, high and said she always wanted a FB as well, as she was single and did not intend to get married. Off we went and that day started our fucking life... Her availability was incredible as she was single. Every time I need a FB, she will be available. I try my best to be available as well.
Then came a time where it started to get too frequent, almost daily. To save room cost, we did it in the car most of the time at the famous WWII site or at her place when no one was around, haha. But after around three months, I was taking a heavy toll on my marriage... and it all ended.


FB is for fuck... The few minutes or hours together will be passionate, as if we were a couple for life, loving each other forever. But once it ends, we part ways that day as if we were good friends. In the presence of others, we pretend to be ordinary and no one suspected a thing. But, it cannot be too frequent (daily is out, once a month, or once a week max), and we should not ask any questions about each other's life... it should just be contained within sex topics... new sex positions, how to prolong, how to orgasm, etc...

mistress is different altogether. I stay away at all cost for that.

a few years have past and I have yet to find an attractive FB to match again... one who stand by the rules of just passionate sex and no love afterwards.... hope I will be lucky soon.. any interested FB, please PM me... :)

Originally Posted by megachiongster (Post 15042171)

i used to have many fbs. it was great experiementing with different sex partners.
it was actually costlier than using FL.
because u dont have to buy dinner and be romantic to FL.....

but i still prefer FB than FL because there is more passion, the fb will genuinely like sex to be a fb.

i used some websites and apps to find FB..
u guys that are now married, how to get a fb safetly to release the sex? lol

Originally Posted by megachiongster (Post 15042171)

i used to have many fbs. it was great experiementing with different sex partners.
it was actually costlier than using FL.
because u dont have to buy dinner and be romantic to FL.....

but i still prefer FB than FL because there is more passion, the fb will genuinely like sex to be a fb.

i used some websites and apps to find FB..
u guys that are now married, how to get a fb safetly to release the sex? lol

Originally Posted by megachiongster (Post 15042171)

i used to have many fbs. it was great experiementing with different sex partners.
it was actually costlier than using FL.
because u dont have to buy dinner and be romantic to FL.....

but i still prefer FB than FL because there is more passion, the fb will genuinely like sex to be a fb.

i used some websites and apps to find FB..
u guys that are now married, how to get a fb safetly to release the sex? lol

Originally Posted by samdiy (Post 15091782)

Bro,

Can share with us which websites and apps to find fb?Ty

Originally Posted by samdiy (Post 15091782)

Bro,

Can share with us which websites and apps to find fb?Ty

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior (Post 15107770)

Guess you can try skout or wechat

I am not so much into ONS and Sexting or whatever techy methods there are.

Just old fashioned, go out, go to a bar, be a gentleman and take a lady home.

But the thing about FBs is its only last as a phase, so it will either go 1. FB moves on to someone else 2. FB develops feelings and becomes love and affection.

Unless the FB is attached or married, no reason for her to not want more out of giving her body up for just sex

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior (Post 14925899)

I start sharing, currently I have a gf/fb/小三 whatever you call it.

it has been a long long process of crazy sex, lots of problems, to now less problems but almost no sex.

If there is sex, its lousy anyway. Watching the hotel TV, don't even BJ.

Does anyone still get hot and heavy with their fbs after years of being together?

Let me frame my case which started 6 years back

My "gf" is ex FL

These are the issues I faced when I first started with her

1. She lies about her past or tells you half diluted truth. Even if its true, you wonder if she is lying
2. You worry about embarassement. She has worked for 2 years, wearing LV, prada, branded, goes to casino, how many cocks has she fucked, handjob, sucked, how many people have screwed her, sucked her, seen her nude etc...
- This happens when you start to have feelings for her. You worry that the coffeeshop old uncle, or the young army punk has fucked her.
3. You think its great sex, connection, GFE(sounds familiar brothers???) but then again, she has had alot of practice, daily practice on many guys, all races, colours, sizes, age. If you are married, I was, you think its better sex than with your wife. Yes it is, because your wife doesnt fuck men daily for breakfast, lunch, dinner, supper
4. Character- often they lie, and have character issues. Smoke, drink, take drugs, flirt, gamble. Bad tempered. Many times single mother, was knocked up by some ah beng who ran off. Has tattoos. Might have worked at the so called Fei Ji Chang, doing handjobs first, or hostress or escort, being Bao by married men or rich men- or all these before they end up being a full fledged WL/FL
5. Doing raw, how many of you do with protection with your gf or wife? If your gf is a ex FL, do with condom all the time, no matter what she says. I didnt get any stds or hivs, but I believe there was a bout of jock itch, that was thanks to her. I had to get a cream from mustapha $5-6 to sort out the damp and itchy stuff. Dragged her to the doctor again and again, to blood test, and found she had an yeast infection.
6. You dont become a FL because you are forced. At least not if she is singaporean. Forced because she has debts(loanshark, gambling) etc...is liken to the 3 ladies being forced to have oral and sex with SCDF chief- BS. The ex husband came out to say his ex gf is decent, dont wear make up- Cmon, total bullocks. Its a choice- a greed for money by selling her body, its the easy way. But look at her character, she is willing to open her leg for money instead of work a decent job. It should tell you her value system.
But the flip side, if you screwing a FL, we aint not saints either.
7. Sex you have great sex with her, you worry if she has had better, bigger and screamed louder. You want to know, but it hurts you to ask.

Fast forward, towards the end, the sex becomes, like all relationships, same, boring. And you ask yourself why the fuck did you fall in love with someone from that world. And you ask yourself what you had lost, given up, and sacrificed- was it worth it?

Sex is sex, love is love. You want GFE, you can pay for it and get it anywhere. The guys she fucked got what you got too, passion, GFE, etc...might have even got more. Because if she is your gf, she can say she is tired, dont want to swallow, condoms make her painful, so when you fuck her you need to pull up and not shoot in etc...And you have to do more, you think you getting free fuck? You pay with handphone bills, buying her stuff, paying for her food, driving her around...and if you are married, pay with your marriage- when your wife finds out you fucked a WL.

My advice, never "fall" in love with a WL, FL, fall in lust- okay. Screw the hell out of her, keep your wallet tight, and dont ever give up on anything.

All relationships are selfish, you want something, so does she. She wouldnt be thinking whether its too much to do this or that, so dont come down hard on yourself to treat her as a FL.

Never fall in love with a FL, WL, ex or not

Originally Posted by megachiongster (Post 15042171)

i used to have many fbs. it was great experiementing with different sex partners.
it was actually costlier than using FL.
because u dont have to buy dinner and be romantic to FL.....

but i still prefer FB than FL because there is more passion, the fb will genuinely like sex to be a fb.

i used some websites and apps to find FB..
u guys that are now married, how to get a fb safetly to release the sex? lol

Originally Posted by HelloAngel (Post 15138399)

TS,

If you are so unhappy with your fb, why not just end it? Afterall, you don't have a legal binding contract like a marriage cert. Easy way is to reduce the meetings n let it die a natural death. I did it for a past relationship where it was a fb turned bf situation. Long story why we didn't started off as a couple. Anyway, we fought frequently and the intimacy was minimal. We knew it was coming to an end and slowly we met lesser and it somehow ended. I was hurt but I was glad. Hope you will find a solution soon. In life, we just need to be happy.

Originally Posted by Dragonkeep (Post 15143235)

Hi TS, i thot u hit the nail on de head with your analysis of the difference between an FB and Xiao San. The former is just for fucks, the other is for some emo AND fucks (for a time, till u dun wanna spend $$).

I oso think HelloAngel's post is spot on. Once the F is out of the FB, screw it and blow a night at a KTV or something to remind yerself how many other fish there are in the pond. Sink your nose into those foxy ladies, inhale their aroma and chemicals, booze n party the heartache away and try to leave with a gal or two for a consolation fuck. You'll realise how no FB or any other babe is truly irreplaceable (my view of coz).

I think the vast bulk of us dudes (pardon me ladies) are in this lifestyle basically for the banging. There is a very highly recommended thread called "Mistresses" that I read more than 6 years back wch i think sums up the whole wisdom of not getting burnt in investing your 100% into any KC. Save all that for your soulmate. After that, even if boredom kicks in, hey, if $$ allows, get a Xiaosan or two for some emo variety or just go along with commercial fucks but as that "Mistress" thread explains, never burn the missus unless you want a legal hell of a divorce and all the accompanying grief.

WL sex is least satisfying for me. Too many preflight checks (any cuts? ulcer wounds? does she smell funny? is she on long term pass (at least the Gahmen, God bless their strictness, checks for serious STDs for all those longer passes, singers and work pass holders included), is the CD in good working order?) then comes the restrained sex (dare not lick, dare not french, dare not raw, "SHIT did her vaginal fluid get my dick?" etc etc).

I can see all the benefits of getting an FB inc raw - i.e. where the above does not apply (provided she/we check regularly and you ain't one of dunno how many other FBs). But again, when the F is all gone, the bare bones question is whether the FB deserves a promo to Xiao San or even more? I guess that's the question each dude has to ask himself.

I've run through a series of Xiao sans myself, 3 and counting. Each serves/served a "contract" of between 3 - 6 years plus an FB (7 years but i pulled the plug). Once you hear "biological needs" and "status" etc., and the bonking's out the window, it's time to ask the question above. For me, the answer remains simple, no one displaces the chief wife (like our mainland ancestors) and the Xiao 3, Xiao 4, FB1, FB2 etc all better know their pecking order or hit the road. I know this may sound brutal but hey, it's kept the harmony at home well enuf.

Juz my few cents bro.

Originally Posted by HelloAngel (Post 15145221)

Bro, how do you keep the other women happy without blowing the cover at home? Don't they demand more after awhile? I have frens who are w married men n go thru heartache when they fall in love n want more. Of course, it's not possible cos the man ain't leaving the wife.

Originally Posted by HelloAngel (Post 15145221)

Bro, how do you keep the other women happy without blowing the cover at home? Don't they demand more after awhile? I have frens who are w married men n go thru heartache when they fall in love n want more. Of course, it's not possible cos the man ain't leaving the wife.