Re: Need help in dealing with a very painful Divorce.
 

Bro Lancer, you have fucked up your marriage.
You never tell us what have you done to your wife that warrant a divorce.
I am sure your dark secret have hurt badly.
Your only hope is to kneel down before her and cry, if you want to save it.

Re: Need help in dealing with a very painful Divorce.
 

Thanks bros for all the advice. I have more or less made up my mind what to do. So it's more like trying to get this thing outta my mind and am gonna embark on a quest of finding back my old-self.

Hey bro colins n DYBJ, I've found the name of obi wan's master. it's 'Qui-Gon Jinn' :D

Re: Need help in dealing with a very painful Divorce.
 

hi bros hw to go through a divorce? look for lawyer first to draft documents or go councellor? or go where register? thanks :confused:

Re: Need help in dealing with a very painful Divorce.
 

Ah...Kuai Gone Gin, wonder where yoda has Gone to?
haha thanks!

Re: Need help in dealing with a very painful Divorce.
 

Hope you can get well:)

Re: Need help in dealing with a very painful Divorce.
 

Hi TS, as much as you want to savage your marriage with your wife, there are 2 very important things you should address to

1) There is no third party or someone waiting at the sideline for your wife
If there are ppl or guy interested in her giving her support to end the marriage, it will make your task even more difficult.
I am not trying to made you paranoid, but it is important.
Whatever one do, one need to know what's out there against your odds
Making sure of this will make your task a bit easier.

2) Do some deep self searching on why exactly your wife is not giving it another go for the marriage. Is it that you hurt her too much too deeply?
You must find out what those are and ask yourself if you will avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future if both of you eventually get back again together. Able to avoid hurting her again and you can try to assure her how you intend to change into a better man as you appreciate her and only want the better you for her.

Do give her a bit of time to cool down. Some times, in the her state of feeling hopelessness in the marriage, she will just simply close the door on you and say no, no matter how hard you try.

Wish you luck and last to add is that as long as you think that you had tried harder enough, and that the result does not go your way as you wished for, perhaps its time to let go.