Woes of Satisfying Sexual Needs (Help Me Thread)

[nicholasoh]

My girlfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years.. We have never engage into any sexual activities more than heavy petting.. Meaning, she's still a virgin. I regretted telling her that I would rather leave my first time with my loved one during nuptial night.. That happen roughly few months when we get together.. I mean, who don't say such noble stuff to their gf during romantic moments before?

About a year later, I initiated and on top of the "promise" I told her, she added that we shouldn't commit such things when we're still a (varsity) student.. Ok, I respect her.. Now, we're a couple of months before getting into the working society. I asked her again, now she blame me of lying to her about the "promise". It's my stupidity to tell her that initially but I just got a feeling that she just plainly doesn't want to do it with me.. The fact is that she loves me truthfully and we have sincerely engaging into wedding plans but I just can't see the reason why..

Now the reason she gave me is that she's afraid of the initial pain, it could be true but even if this is solve, I just feel that she will cook up some other excuse to reject me..

Some bros might zap me because they may think that my gf is doing the right thing and based on frequent media education, I may be a bastard to force her like this but I just want to pint point my view..

As an adult, I do have my own natural needs. It's not like I'm those nuts in TV serials, after screwing innocents, will just ditch them away.. Getting married is a definite. It's just a matter of time and resource.. Oh ya, sometimes she will say that since I can hold my needs for 3 years, why can't hold a few more? Damn! What am I suppose to tell her? Can you tell a prisoner that is releasing after 5 years of stay for another 5? And tell him that since he has already stayed for 5, why can't stay another 5 more.. Spastic excuse.. I have my needs and I believe bros out there will agree fully with me..

Some may suggest that I go for paid sex but this will arise into further problems if found out.. So fed up now.. Want to satisfy my natural needs, my gf disallow. Only solution is to look for paid ones and she will make a big fuss out of it.. If I do look for FLs, will I become a devil? Cheating behind the back of my gf.. What am I suppose to do? This also cannot, that also can't.. Breaking up is of course not a solution. See psychiatrist? Don't think she wants..

Can bros out there please provide me with a serious-no-nonsense solution? Thanks.

[EricssonMan]

I felt there's no right or wrong as both of you have either stand point or needs. Importantly, whatever decision you made, don't risk your GF if you are serious about her.

Hope you get what I meant.

[Triple-X]

Some may suggest that I go for paid sex but this will arise into further problems if found out.. So fed up now.. Want to satisfy my natural needs, my gf disallow. Only solution is to look for paid ones and she will make a big fuss out of it.. If I do look for FLs, will I become a devil? Cheating behind the back of my gf.. What am I suppose to do? This also cannot, that also can't.. Breaking up is of course not a solution. See psychiatrist? Don't think she wants..

Can bros out there please provide me with a serious-no-nonsense solution? Thanks.

Just an advice.Since you've been 'shackled so long' without sex,if you were to go for commercial sex,i suggest you get your priorities right and dont get addicted to it.Dont be too indulgent if you've weak willpower and succumb to temptations easily Oh yeah,before i forget,dont use this - my-galfriend-dont-want-give-me-sex as your excuse to go looking for FLs and commercial sex.If is the devil in you that you love,break off with her and welcome to the world of commercial sex!my friend.
I've a goody-2-shoes campmate buddy who has the same situation like you.You from cat40 upgrade to cat150,to small time ktvs upgrade to nightclubs,being the latter he find these gals more chio and more sexually skilful he claimed.From earning a few Ks per month to sometimes having even need to borrow from me to meet months end.:eek:
And the most funny part is since he so into commercial sex thing,so after he married,he kept complaining to me his wife in bed skill not good la,this and that.And cos of this quarrel with her.Got 1 time he ask his wife to do dog style,and guess what his wife say? "You think i animal ah?!!" LOL! Total different exprience,dude! My this particular friend also got 1 time,he said he dreamt of 1 regular WL he visited,and he dreamt of the WL giving the most mind-blowing blowjob on him,he swears its so surreal,and my friend moan this WL's name,probably "XXX,faster suck,i'm cumming ah!!!" Suddenly he felt wetness and he got jolted out of this dream.Guess what,his wife take a small pail of water and splashed on him and demanded to know who's the name he kept calling,and they quarrel until morning next day + take MC no go work,haha!

Oh yeah,before i forget,dont use this - my-galfriend-dont-want-give-me-sex as your excuse to go looking for FLs and commercial sex.If is the devil in you that you love,break off with her and welcome to the world of commercial sex!If not,i suggest you grab some nice lather soap so that you may jerk off whenver your need arises.There's no good or bad la as long as you know how to wipe your mouth and return to the woman u love at the end of the day cos she's the one who will be together with you till the end of your time.

My 2cents worth,rgds:)

[shoutcast]

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/58/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs.svg/400px-Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs.svg.png

According to maslow , sexual needs is a basic need ! so you are not wrong bro :cool:

but her fear is the pain , not the act , so make it comfortable with music(classical/jazz or whatever rocks her boat) , clean comfortable romantic atmosphere , some aromatic candles like lavender if needed. Lots of foreplay + dun expect to pump her like a machine gun in those porn movies ! let her adjust to you first. Let the other more pro bros advice you on this

if she is your future wife , dun look for fl / etc it might misplace trust and that can create a crack in your relation. But still MUST test drive her first ! before you buy car also must test drive right :D

[justwanadoit]

KNN, u hold ur needs for more than 3 year if including those year when u cannot afford fl lor, so dun bullshit until like no choice , very pitiful, u still can watch porn and use your hand lor.:rolleyes:


guess u post here is wan bros here to tell u go for FL or teh your gal fren til she buei tahan and F her right?

why dun u respect here decision and use your hand while fantasizing about her? in that case u not only faithful to her physically by not vsisitng FL but also mentally since u thinking about her and not other gals.:)

[qw2op]

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u made a promise 2 her ... oni she can allow u 2 break dat promise ... n she disapproves dat ... no matter wat excuse u hv would b wrong in her i's ... so ... go get married! ... :cool:

[colins]

Get into heavy petting and ask her to jerk off for you. Next best thing to sex for you, i guess.

[Thom07]

Just an advice.Since you've been 'shackled so long' without sex,if you were to go for commercial sex,i suggest you get your priorities right and dont get addicted to it.Dont be too indulgent if you've weak willpower and succumb to temptations easily Oh yeah,before i forget,dont use this - my-galfriend-dont-want-give-me-sex as your excuse ................My 2cents worth,rgds

This is a good wake-up call / advice. Heed it. Seriously, really dont get addicted to commercial sex. If you had been reading many threads, you would have realised that there are many seniors whom are trying their best to quit FL. Not easy hor cos temptations are everywhere in this forum. ;)

KNN, u hold ur needs for more than 3 year if including those year when u cannot afford fl lor, so dun bullshit until like no choice , very pitiful, u still can watch porn and use your hand lor.


guess u post here is wan bros here to tell u go for FL or teh your gal fren til she buei tahan and F her right?

why dun u respect here decision and use your hand while fantasizing about her? in that case u not only faithful to her physically by not vsisitng FL but also mentally since u thinking about her and not other gals.

I agree with this. You made a promise to her and so be a man and fulfill it. Dont break your promise. Dont force her. Respect her. I guess you had already shot yourself in your own foot when you promised her that.


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If you really cant tahan, there are 3 way out for you. 1)Break off and find another gf. 2)DIY 3)Welcome to the commercial sex scene. :D http://www.sammyboyforum.com/welcome-fl-dome-free-stds-included/

Horniness is a man's 2nd nature. We understand that you have your needs. Pls consider your next step carefully. :p

No offences intended. :cool:

[Idealist]

Look like u promising before thinking. Now that its done, only she can undo it.

Its a case of promising to buy the cow before drinking the milk...

Good luck.

[Intel Ops]

Am i the only one wondering why cannot Bj/Hj?

Maybe he want fj only? :confused: But then I find his post weird and not sure what he want? Maybe encouragement from us fot FLs. ;)

[t3hkor]

As an adult, I do have my own natural needs. It's not like I'm those nuts in TV serials, after screwing innocents, will just ditch them away.. Getting married is a definite. It's just a matter of time and resource.. Oh ya, sometimes she will say that since I can hold my needs for 3 years, why can't hold a few more? Damn! What am I suppose to tell her? Can you tell a prisoner that is releasing after 5 years of stay for another 5? And tell him that since he has already stayed for 5, why can't stay another 5 more.. Spastic excuse.. I have my needs and I believe bros out there will agree fully with me..

since u so sure getting married is definite, den go sign the papers lah. signing papers no need any resources and by law u are married.

[lightning]

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/58/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs.svg/400px-Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs.svg.png

According to maslow , sexual needs is a basic need ! so you are not wrong bro :cool:

but her fear is the pain , not the act , so make it comfortable with music(classical/jazz or whatever rocks her boat) , clean comfortable romantic atmosphere , some aromatic candles like lavender if needed. Lots of foreplay + dun expect to pump her like a machine gun in those porn movies ! let her adjust to you first. Let the other more pro bros advice you on this

if she is your future wife , dun look for fl / etc it might misplace trust and that can create a crack in your relation. But still MUST test drive her first ! before you buy car also must test drive right :D

hahaha very illustrative!!!:D

[lightning]

If u love her respect her desicion but coax her into making love with u, if u need. Tell her ur concerns and needs, but do not becos of a small issues lose u beloved ones. I used to have one conservative ex-GF and will not obliged to easily taken advantage off. I think its is intiating into the 1st step that u have to overcome and come on... we are not living in the olden days where people will shame on us for having pre-marriage. I am sure that ur relationship with her is a very firm one. most imptly respect her decision or seduce her into making love(in her clear state of mind):D

[aczeta76]

TS,

Sex is not everything.. if no KC, then it is pure physical lust and will leave u with more hollowness.

Go exercise when u have the need loh... If prisoners can tahan (or PCC) when the need arise, u wun siao chiong nao lah.

Respect your GF.. dun be a dick hear

[singexpat]

Bro,

if your gf allow BBBJ, then u try to "simulate" FJ by "pumpin" loh..

thts e best i can tink off at e moment...

otherwise... u can oso try e "DARK SIDE"...:D
cos technically, she will still b a "virgin"..

[PKTM]

Ask yourself this - do love her enough to keep ur promise? If yes, then stick to ur promise, if not, then break up and find someone else who is willing to let u fuck her before tying the knots.

[XueJing]

There is no solution to your woes, you wanna keep till wedding, then you wanna do it ..., do with WLs, you worry you devil .... she scold you blah blah blah ....
With these problems, no point asking here, take a dice an throw and see what to do ... you cant hv the best of everything

[bunnytease]

Stare Decisis :)