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ilovesammyboy
24-01-2008, 11:58 AM
Any bro handle such a situation before? Can share?

Went to the church one fine day. Purpose of the trip was to repent... nothing more. i don't like to play within the church area. u know what i mean.

then happened to be this lady in early 20s. i knew her from the time she still a sec student all the way to her being a model. we didn contact for a long time as you know, she is always super 'holy' and everytime she talks is more like preaching.

ok, i drove her back after church that day. started contacting each other. meet up a few times with her and she always hint about going extra.

her face is ok. figure is ok. but don't know why I just cant manage to go beyond the other level due to the background where I know her. the feeling just feel wierd. i see her from she being cute growing to a sexy image. i practically watch her grow! but somehow everything does seems right.

then after that, she got hired in the company i am currently working and i have to see her day in day out. the feeling is even more strange. perhaps i am really 1 odd person.

Anybody experience this before? should i advance or ignore?:confused:

techienator
24-01-2008, 12:00 PM
go as friends first and see how things go from there.. no harm in becoming friends first..

alwaysbestdeal
24-01-2008, 12:03 PM
Anybody experience this before? should i advance or ignore?:confused:

Bro, imho, shld ignore... watch from afar the beauty, sometimes, staying away is the best cure..

:)

Regular1000
24-01-2008, 12:08 PM
Bro, imho, shld ignore... watch from afar the beauty, sometimes, staying away is the best cure..

:)


i can only agree with you on the 1st half... bro should ignore...watch from afar and pass her contact to SBF bros :D

aczeta76
24-01-2008, 12:10 PM
errh.

U watch her grow up??

How's your age difference like?....dangerous to shit in god's backyard..

Regular1000
24-01-2008, 12:16 PM
errh.

U watch her grow up??

How's your age difference like?....dangerous to shit in god's backyard..

Bro Aczeta76, i noticed you are always mentioning 'backyard'? are you backyard trained or backyard specialised? certified anoe? :D :D

someday i might oso consider adopting a teengage girl and 'watch her grow" :p

old_yet_horny
24-01-2008, 12:28 PM
someday i might oso consider adopting a teengage girl and 'watch her grow" :p


不是吧!!!:eek:

Bro...like tat do got 天堑 one leh...

avarice
24-01-2008, 12:28 PM
I dont think you should be asking us this question. Nothing has transpired at the moment and it is really up to you whether you wanna proceed further. If there is any doubt, then you should just stop there as it may get worse next time expecially church and colleague somemore. But if interested in sexual relationship with her, then by all means .... I am sure you are old enough to think for yourself already and that all actions taken, you are responsible and not us ..

ferrari355
24-01-2008, 02:00 PM
hmmm....first of all, what's stopping u frm wooing her to be ur gf? age difference? u dun like her in that way? she only want friendship with benefits and don't want relationship?

without knowing full details, we can't say anything for sure.

but if i were u, if she's not asking for a "friends with benefits" friendship, and she is good gf material, i would consider going after her and trying to make her my gf? den problem solved.

but if she's looking for no-strings-attached thing...den i would leave her alone and just be no-physical-contact friends. for such physical "fun", like u, i also dun like to take on gals frm church.

ChuiTaLan
24-01-2008, 03:33 PM
someday i might oso consider adopting a teengage girl and 'watch her grow" :p

Bro, watch out....thats consider sexual grooming.. :D

t123
24-01-2008, 03:39 PM
since your nick is Ilovesammyboy then go all the way. cover the thots and do the job.:D

no_faith
24-01-2008, 03:54 PM
go same church
working in same plc
dun play play, later fire cannot be put out.
but yet again, seems to be fated in sum way leh...

aczeta76
24-01-2008, 04:14 PM
Bro Aczeta76, i noticed you are always mentioning 'backyard'? are you backyard trained or backyard specialised? certified anoe? :D :D

someday i might oso consider adopting a teengage girl and 'watch her grow" :p


Errh,,, I am into gardening,,:p

singexpat
24-01-2008, 04:20 PM
well... y cannot get to knw her more?

she's a christian, not a NUN.. :D

Scanner
24-01-2008, 04:21 PM
also depends on whether ur married already...

Orgasdo
24-01-2008, 05:01 PM
she's a christian, not a NUN.. :D

Heheh , this is a good one :)

Anyway... best to run away from temptation... not fight it.

sushi prince
24-01-2008, 07:14 PM
then happened to be this lady in early 20s. i knew her from the time she still a sec student all the way to her being a model. we didn contact for a long time as you know, she is always super 'holy' and everytime she talks is more like preaching.

i see her from she being cute growing to a sexy image. i practically watch her grow! but somehow everything does seems right.then after that, she got hired in the company i am currently working and i have to see her day in day out. the feeling is even more strange.

Bro, why do I get the feeling that you are a lot older than her. What's the age gap btw the both of you ?

sushi prince
25-01-2008, 10:45 AM
Just got zapped by a bro who said I quoted the whole post in my post above. If you see the threadstarter's post it's at least 12 sentences or more while what I quoted was less than half.

I don't mind you zap me but please find a reasonable excuse. :mad:

dodger
29-01-2008, 03:28 PM
You want to Play with GOD's children? THINK TWICE. If you don't know whats the meaning of PAIN in HELL, go and play.

Xgenre
29-01-2008, 07:05 PM
i don't like to play within the church area. u know what i mean.

her face is ok. figure is ok. but don't know why I just cant manage to go beyond the other level due to the background where I know her. the feeling just feel wierd. i see her from she being cute growing to a sexy image. i practically watch her grow! but somehow everything does seems right.

Why can't u play within the church area? Not as if u are making love in church right? So many couples I know started by getting to know each other in church. U may not go to church with the intention to hunt but that doesn't mean the ladies aren't man-hunting in church, along with worshipping god. A lot of ladies i know want their bfs or husbands to belong to the same religion.

U only live once. If both of u dun have bfs or spouses, why dun u give both of u a chance, be it for love or lust? Given how uncertain u are on this issue, she probably knows u are lost and indecisive. Ladies can detect an indecisive man easily and they think indecisive men are weaklings. Better make up your mind soon.

If i were u, i will up her.

Beetlejuice
29-01-2008, 08:11 PM
Bro, watch out....thats consider sexual grooming.. :D

Sexual grooming! :eek: The very serious charge where they can throw the book at you!

justbob
29-01-2008, 08:46 PM
In my experience, it is very difficult getting anything from a christian babe if you try to play holier than thou. You must approach her with fun bad boy attitude. She will not want a nice christian bf. The hotter she is the badder and fun you have to be.

sean69
30-01-2008, 09:22 AM
hmm... think i need to go church and "repent" .. ha ha ha

t123
30-01-2008, 10:32 AM
Threadstarter, I am not trying to be funny with religion. But, in french, god's name is A-dieu if translate directly into cantonese, it sounds vulgar. Tell her if she believe Jesus, Jesus will save her. If she believe you, you will dieu enuff of her (in cantonese).

ilovesammyboy
30-01-2008, 12:44 PM
thanks bros for all the opinions.

the day i get married will be the day i quit this forum.

precisely i am older than her. and young girls seem to like guys with quite a number of age differences. it wont surprise me to know that a number of colleagues are after her as well. besides she likes to brag to me whom she goes out with, which VP, which department head blah blah blah. donnoe if she is trying to spite me or trying to make me feel that 'she-is-so-well-connected-and-i-should-give-way-to-her' feeling or perhaps both.

it is my responsibility to review her on her probation period. lets see how things goes along the way.

anyway i know many bros feel this thread pretty sian cos no FR. sorry ah!

dirtyhairy
30-01-2008, 12:49 PM
errh.

U watch her grow up??
How's your age difference like?....dangerous to shit in god's backyard..

Sinful to shit in God's backyard...
but is it not blessed to screw...procreate?:D

Killien
28-02-2008, 11:11 PM
Lemme get this straight. So.. What you're essentially saying is you've got this ex-model naughty catholic female in her 20's constantly hitting you up for a lil somethin' somethin'?

Good lord! This is just a travesty. I so feel your pain. I really do.

old_yet_horny
29-02-2008, 09:06 AM
[QUOTE=ilovesammyboy;2555374]
precisely i am older than her. and young girls seem to like guys with quite a number of age differences. it wont surprise me to know that a number of colleagues are after her as well. besides she likes to brag to me whom she goes out with, which VP, which department head blah blah blah. donnoe if she is trying to spite me or trying to make me feel that 'she-is-so-well-connected-and-i-should-give-way-to-her' feeling or perhaps both.
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Bro...

I use to have a ex GF like this gal that u mentioned...

Worked really hard to get her and double hard to keep her.

End of the day call it quits...

Made hole in my heart as well as my pocket.. wasted 4 years of my time... Too "up-class" for me and "high maintenance"... Took me sometime to realise what I want in life.. Finally got over her and now a happy samster..

I hope you will not have the same fate as me..

Good luck!

sohhigh
29-02-2008, 09:59 AM
just follow ur heart

shoutcast
01-03-2008, 02:29 PM
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K|muRa^84
01-03-2008, 03:45 PM
@OP:

If you cant even make a simple decision for yourself, I suggest you stop going to church because it seems to be turning you into a fucking moron. The answer is simple. What are the consequences of fucking your church friend? Will the priest lock you up and poke you in the ass like most of them do? You are either a weak minded individual (like most church goers are) or you need a pair of bollocks.

sensuality2007
01-03-2008, 06:39 PM
I think the real core uestion which you have to ask yourself is "are you prepared to be with her on long term relationship with view to marriage or will it just be a fling or ONS"? If you are prepared to be with her on long term, then there's no stopping for you to contnue relationship with her.

But one thing I have to let you know is I don;t like the way like you describe that "she brags to you..." if she likes bragging then I suggest you have to reconsider if she is the type of materialistic girl or is she trying to make you feel insecure and jealous that pushes to to be more aggressive in wooing her?

If she is materialistic and brags a lot and you not prepared on a long term relation with her, suggest strongly leave her only and go find other girls out of church which may be better and "safer"

Hope this suggestion can help you

singexpat
02-03-2008, 09:47 AM
besides she likes to brag to me whom she goes out with, which VP, which department head blah blah blah. donnoe if she is trying to spite me or trying to make me feel that 'she-is-so-well-connected-and-i-should-give-way-to-her' feeling or perhaps both.

frm e way u put it, sounds like she's a HOLY S-UT....

so, dun give urself too much pressure..

my advice is to eat and forget...:D

longwinter
02-03-2008, 11:40 AM
I think the real core uestion which you have to ask yourself is "are you prepared to be with her on long term relationship with view to marriage or will it just be a fling or ONS"? If you are prepared to be with her on long term, then there's no stopping for you to contnue relationship with her.

But one thing I have to let you know is I don;t like the way like you describe that "she brags to you..." if she likes bragging then I suggest you have to reconsider if she is the type of materialistic girl or is she trying to make you feel insecure and jealous that pushes to to be more aggressive in wooing her?

If she is materialistic and brags a lot and you not prepared on a long term relation with her, suggest strongly leave her only and go find other girls out of church which may be better and "safer"

Hope this suggestion can help you

ya bro, better dun choose tis kind of gal who brags to u. This kind of gal belongs to tose materialistic region. Even if u treat her good, she will not appreciate it de. This kind of gal will never have enough, and all they noe is to compare and compare. My ex gf is one good example. l treat her so well. Take care of her well beings and etc, but she But everytime she brag to me abt other guys, how handsome, rich, and clever they are.

And l was very hurt by tis comments she make, when l ask her y l treat u so good, but u dun seem to appreciate it, but y ur guy frenz jus treat u a bit well, and u are all over him. Compliments and praises.

she told me that becos he is handsome looking, rich mah, diff from u.
ridiculous right?

Jessie
02-03-2008, 12:29 PM
your objectiive is to go to to the church and repent and you see this holy turned sexy churchmate which might be a test from god for you.

i suggest you to throughly cleanse your 'head' using the holy hole to genuinely repent

Intel Ops
02-03-2008, 01:59 PM
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nice one. :D

Sir Knight
02-03-2008, 02:56 PM
Really brings a new meaning to the term church of love.